Well it happened! I finally came out to my dad, while on our family roadtrip to California. Came out in the middle of Nebraska actually! Surprisingly, he took it well. He said that's he isn't happy, but that he understands and that he just wants me to be happy. He said that it's going to take him time to truly accept it all,but that he knows how important it is for me to liberate myself. He also admitted that he had some suspicions that I was gay, and that ever since I was born (just months old), he saw that I had some more feminine traits (not to say that all gays are "feminine). What a relief! I can finally breathe easier, and be more myself!
This must be such a relief to you, you really do have loving parents, a real blessing! When you do have a BF, this will no doubt be awkward for them as well. It is important that they become comfortable talking about your relationships, hopefully within the same bounds as there would be if you were straight. The worst that can happen is that they don't want to talk about it from now on. You somehow need to make it clear that this will be hurtful to you (and your BF!) and that you will need their guidance just as much if it was a girl with whom you have a relationship. It may be wise to have this talk as soon as possible. Coming out is done (congratulations!), the hard part is finding a way for them to be involved (and to want to be involved) when you have a BF and to be there (heaven forbid!) if you break up or for any other issues (just as they would be if it was a girl you were seeing). Who said life was easy?!
Congratulations! It's really great your dad is looking out for your happiness. You are lucky to have a supportive parent.
I'm glad to hear that and hopefully your dad can enlighten himself more. I'm happy to hear that he just cares that you're happy! That's the important part.
Wow! That is great! I am happy for you. Have you been weary to tell your dad? Or is he easy going or?
Thanks everyone! I completely agree greatwhale. I've asked them about how they'd feel if I brought a bf home, and they both said that they'd feel a little weirded out. I'm slowly warming them up to the idea of me being with another guy, kissing another guy, etc. duende84: I've been very weary. He isn't the most easy going, especially with this issue since he's deeply grounded in biblical principles.
That's so awesome, man! I'm so happy and proud of you. I'm glad your mom talked to him about it before you said anything so he had time to process his feelings about you actually told him. Sounds like he took it better than you expected. I think everyone in your family will get more used to it over time. Again, so happy for you! (*hug*)
Woot!!!! This is great!! You can finally be more open inside your own house, this is amazing! I'm glad that he took it well, I'm sure he's doing his best to accept you so give him time until he can feel comfortable with it. But yeah, you did it and you deserve the acceptance you have received. Congrats!!! (*hug*)
Thanks I completely agree! I can finally be more free at home with my family. The chains have been unshackled. I mean, I still have to deal with jokes from my dad, and deal with some stigma because being gay is "unnatural" to my dad, but I'm open. In fact, I joke back at my dad sometimes, and even kid around with the jokes myself.
