Considering telling a friend from work...

I haven't had a 'coming out' update for a while. It's been almost 2 years since I came out to my wife / therapist / self, over a year since I came out to my 2 best friends, and almost a year since I came out to my parents.

I've never told anyone at work - I didn't figure it mattered, and to be quite honest don't really want that to be a topic of conversation for people - my sexuality.

However, I do have a good friend from work that I considered telling, and decided I would just keep my work life completely removed from this part of my life.

However, we've recently being going through a pretty severe wave of downsizing and this close friend that I thought about telling before was let go. icon_sad

(Thankfully I wasn't let go, but the irony of it all is that I was given her job! :eusa_doh

So I've arranged to have lunch with her tomorrow at a restaurant near the office to celebrate her recent birthday... and I'm thinking that I might tell her I'm gay. I'm pretty sure she'll be OK with it. And I'd like her to really understand what went on between my wife and I - because we we actually sociallized as couples on more than one occassion, and she and my wife liked each other as well.

I'm still not convinced I'll do it. But I'll let you know. :smilewave

 

Hi there. I had a busy afternoon and wasn't able to update this thread until now...

I did go out for lunch, and I DID tell my friend I was gay!!! I ended up waiting til after we'd eaten, because the restaurant was a little more empty then, and there weren't any people sitting immediately around us.

She was VERY surprised. However, she took it in stride. She was really sorry that I'd had to go through what must have been a very difficult time of self discovery, but she was very happy to know that I'd made it through all that and was happier than I'd ever been. She hadn't ever understood why my wife and I had split - she thought we were so well suited. We were, all but for this one little thing...

So we ended up sitting in the restaurant until about 2:15! We talked about my wife and how she was doing, how the kids were and when I might tell them about their dad being gay. I told her I was seeing someone. She seemed genuinely happy for me.

AND she was very touched and honoured that I wanted to share this information with her.

So YAY for me!