So, since I came to the realization that I was bi I've been freaking out over whether or not to tell the guy I'm in love with: my almost but-not-quite boyfriend. And today I had a really bad day and just...couldn't stand not telling him anymore. So I told him and it went like this: me: fuck. i hafta tell you something. him: go for it him: im here to listen me: shit nvm. i dont want to. him: no tell me him: please me: Promise you won't hate me. him: Definitly will not me: I'm bi. him: Umm yes! you've told me this silly me: I have? me: When? him: yeaaaaaaa you have him: a while ago me: Well thats impossible because I just realized it myself about 2 months ago. him: umm well you've definitly told me about this sooo nice try me: Fuck. When? I dont remember ever doing that. him: dude i don't remember him: it was over summer i think him: why would i hate you? me: Idk. You don't seem to like homosexuals very much. him: oh its just a guy thing me: And me being bi means that thats what I am. me: At least somewhat. him: yea i understand WTF. I can't believe he knew! And I DONT REMEMBER TELLING HIM! I'm actually really pissed off about this whole situation because...I don't know. I just thought it would be different. What do you all think?
Well...um...at least you don't have to tell him! It's okay. He's fine with it, and that's what matters.
You know it happens that we forget things....and yes even something as important as this. Don't worry about it. He is fine with it. That's the important thing here! Right? Congrats on having told him!!!
So, you came out to him (again apparently), he accepts you and you still manage to be pissed off? :eusa_eh:
I often forget that I've came out to people, and they turn round and say, 'well, yeah, i know...' lol. So i just have to kinda, laugh and say that i seem to be losing track of my come out to list XD don't worry about it, he didn't react badly, so thats the main thing. And i'm sure if he'd had a problem with your bisexuality, he would have let you known form the first time he found out.
Just to clarity. What must've come off as anger in my message was actually extreme frustration. This is the second time I've forgotten something important when it comes to mine and his relationship. The first being something that was possibly the most romantic thing that ever happened to me. He and a few other people that I didn't even know where there remember it and I don't. So yeah, I'm not angry with him. I'm glad. Really glad. I didn't think he'd be ok with it. And yeah the "its a guy thing" did seem weird. But, I think thats just the way he is. Oh and right afterward in the convo, he said he was going to stop using terms like gay and homo and such just because I expressed the fact that they make me uncomfortable when used in a negative way. I love him. I'm just sad he's so far away. Oh yeah, and now he wants me to come out to my school. Not. Happening. Thank you all for your comments and such. <3Isa.
Well, personally I think you forgetting you came out to him is better than him forgetting your out. I mean I've had to come out more than once to too many people...Now that is really frustraiting :bang:
