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Came out to my parents!

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Quem, Oct 6, 2014.

  1. Quem

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    Today it finally happened! :icon_bigg

    You may know that I am not ashamed of who I am, yet I hadn't come out to my parents. I just couldn't find the moment to tell them. But today was different! :icon_bigg

    My parents know that I am Skyping with another guy. We are in love with each other, but they didn't know that. My parents hear me laugh, hear me talk to him and things like that. They already hinted that I like him a lot (as a friend). Today, however, my mother said to me "do you have feelings for him?". I can't lie to them, so I said "uhm.. Yes, I do." She replied with a "I already had a hunch."

    I was so relieved! Now they know I love a guy. My mother said "you know that we care about you, and that we don't care if you like guys or girls." So it couldn't have gone any better! :icon_bigg

    Later, when I came home, my brother (who already knew about me for some time) told me that our father also knows. He explained to them, when I was at school, that I am bisexual. My parents think it's likely "some denial", but at least they are comfortable with the fact that I like guys (too). :icon_bigg I will tell correct them if it comes up.

    About my crush.. You may know him too. He is known as Kabuki here. I am in love with him and we are going to meet in future, probably next year. He really eased my coming out. (*hug*) Kabuki, you are amazing. :kiss:

    That's all I wanted to share! :icon_bigg I feel so happy now! :icon_bigg
     
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    Congrats!!!! So happy for you (and Kabuki too!)
     
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    Thank you SemiCharmedLife! :icon_bigg
     
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    I'm soo happy for you!!! (*hug*) We've talked about it before and, I'm really glad it all came out so well. I know you wanted to wait for a bit before telling them but, it's great that they took the initiative to talk it out with you.

    I also love you! I'm completely happy to have met you and this is just the beginning of our relationship. I know we'll be able to overcome the distance we have now and one day be together on the same place. You have been the best thing that could have happened to me and, I'm extremely glad that you can share this with your parents. (*hug*)

    Love you, Quem! :kiss:
     
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    Congratulations :slight_smile: :slight_smile:
     
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    Way to go, whoo! :thumbsup:
     
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    Thanks jay777 and Bane! :icon_bigg

    And of course thank you too for your lovely words, Kabuki. :kiss:
     
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    Congrats Quem!
    For coming out to your parents and finding Kabuki. :love:
     
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    Thank you Xochipilli! :icon_bigg
     
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    Yay!!

    This has actually brightened up my otherwise crappy day :slight_smile: I'm pleased that your parents took it well and I wish you and Kabuki all the best.
     
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    Thanks One Man Army! :icon_bigg

    Sorry to hear your day was crappy. I'm glad this was uplifting. (*hug*)
     
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    Gefeliciteerd! :grin: I'm glad that everything went so well :slight_smile:.
     
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    Congrats! I plan to come out to my mum before 2015 so hopefully I am able to do it.
     
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    Thanks Candace, dank je! :icon_bigg

    tulipinacup, if I can do this, you can do this too! (*hug*)

    Thanks HM03! :icon_bigg
     
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    Congratulations, Quem! To such son, such parents :slight_smile:

    I noticed both you and Kabuki on various threads - because of your thoughtful and pleasant style of engaging and providing feedback. Imagine the surprise to read about your love, so happy for you guys, hope you can get together soon.
     
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    Thank you Libra71! :icon_bigg

    I am glad my parents are supportive, that really helps me a lot. Thanks for your kind words! (*hug*) We hope to be together soon. The distance is an issue for now, but one day there will be no distance between us. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations on both coming out and falling in love.. It is a wonderful feeling to have supportive people on your side, especially when you know your parents are.. It's also funny in a way how parents are quite intuitive.. My mum knew I had been talking to someone for a while and that something was going on even though I had never revealed it to her. She let me come to her when I was ready though.
     
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    Blossom85, thank you very much for your kind words! It is indeed funny how they already thought so, I still haven't figured out how they knew.. But it's a good thing they know for sure now. :slight_smile:

    That's amazing, parents seem to pay close attention to these kind of things. They know. =)
     
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    tried to post this on your wall but I do not meet the conditions yet... here we go:

    yes, I understand the distance aspect, it's not going to be easy but you know, love does conquer all! It is important to find ways to spend decent amounts of time together - school holidays, easter, xmas, any opportunity you can get. My husband and I had a long distance relationship for about four years - this was before Skype/facetime - there was a lot of flying across Europe, things worked out for us in the end. I am sure they will for you and Kabuki too if there is strong love and commitment. anyway, for now just enjoy your new status 'out to parents'.