Well on sunday I went to a party and one thing lead to another and before I knew it a had a full makeover (just in case you don't know I still live as a guy) which gave me an idea if my parents are denial I will force the issue onto them this doesn't mean one day living as a guy then a girl this means gradually falling into the role of being a girl. This also will be happening with people from school there is no need for it but I would much rather be out than not also this will raise the question of my sexuality which I will tell everyone the truth. So I am planning it in phases and I will show you how I will do it No questioning of gender identity phase (1-2 weeks) Stop putting up fake masculine fronts Begin to grow my hair longer Slight questioning of gender identity phase (4-7 weeks) Begin to wear feminine male clothes Continue to grow hair out Begin to wear nail polish Moderate questioning of gender identity phase (6-10 weeks) Begin to wear musculine girl clothes Wax my body in parts where girls usually would (that is going to hurt) Continue to grow hair out (I will start with short hair like I do now) Serious questioning of gender identity phase (12-20 weeks) Begin to wear very girly clothes (eg skirts) Start wearing neaklaces bracelets etc Cease wearing male clothes (except underwear and school uniform) Continue to grow hair (hopefully long by now) If you haven't realised by now you have something wrong with phase (rest of life) get very feminine haircut Start wearing female underwear and school uniform Legally change name (may have to wait until 18) just wondering if everyone thought this way a good idea or should try another way
I like it, it seems to be very well planned . If you feel comfortable with it, go ahead! I'm not for anyone living a life they feel is not theirs.
I think this definitely works! But I think you should/can start wearing jewelry now, and also change underwear! My best friend from high school is MTF and he wears guys pants, sometimes girls t-shirts, but always jewelry! And no one will see what's under your clothes, so why wait to buy some pink lace panties?
Well my little brother walks into my room and sees them no thanks I want it to be established that I am not being back as a boy first
I think this is a great idea, it will let people slowly adjust as well as yourself to your true self & look.
I can't start this until I get a job and I come back from going way (18th october) but from then it should be able to start
here in Australia, you can legally call yourself anything you want, so long as you don't use your assumed name on legal documents, for voting, etc. so i say start calling yourself chloe (im assuming) and get it changed on the school roll etc (this is okay) also, i dont see why you will continue to wear a male school uniform while wearing skirts when in casual. neither the school nor anyone else can stop you from wearing female clothing. thats discrimination. overall, a very well thought out plan. good luck in its execution!
Thanks for that the uniform thing is mainly because next year they are having a uniform change so will wear male uniform for year 10 (cause we have one year transtition period) and buy female year 11 one
I realy can't wait to hear how it works out for you. it sounds like a realy well thought out plan, and i wish you the best of luck with it
It seems like a lot to take on when you're alone in this pursuit. Your status says you're only out to your parents, and they are in denial. So do none of your friends know about your plans? I think you might want to see if you can get some supporters on your side before you start into this kind of process. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you might get more support for your transformation if people understand up front what your plans are, and why you plan do do it. Could you talk to your school administration about it? Let them know that these are your plans? Because they're likely going to freak out the day you show up in a female uniform. Had then known in advance that you were going to do it, you might get more support. You might even want to consult with a specialist who works with transgender people. Perhaps there's a schedule that they could recommend. Otherwise, I'm afraid people might view it as 'attention seaking' and give you a hard time with it. I'm sure you realize that people are going to give you a hard time anyway... You'll have to be pretty tough. Be sure you know what you're getting yourself into.
Hi there! I realize I am a bit late to this thread but reading through it I am glad that you decided to follow Jim's advice a little bit. The other thing I would strongly recommend (and as Jim mentioned as well) besides letting your friends know, talk to a counselor and a specialist. It sounds straight forward but it might turn out to be anything but straight forward. I think it is important that you see a counselor on a regular basis while you are going through this transformation and after wards. It is important that you talk to someone about your feelings/emotions during this process. I think it is important that you have as much as support as possible before you start your transformation. Hope all turns out well for you and do keep us informed.
It sounds like a good idea, making the changes gradually. That way you'll ease people into the idea and it won't be such a shock to them. Good luck, and keep us in the loop.
