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Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Kasey, Nov 4, 2014.

  1. Kasey

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    My parents know. My dad called me to just "talk". Then he called me back.

    "Is there something you want to tell me you have been holding back a long time?"

    Aw shit....

    And then I told him. I didn't want to have the conversation over the phone but... it happened. My mom would rather be oblivious but my dad is going to tell her.

    I'm not sure where I'm going to go from here...
     
  2. Acm

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    Good luck, I hope they take it well! I was found out too, instead of getting to formally come out, and it's sort of shocking since you can't prepare for it, but I always just tell myself that it had to happen some day
     
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    (*hug*)

    I hope everything goes well, Kasey. We're all here for you.
     
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    Be honest. They may not always like it, but be honest. You are who you are!
     
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    Good luck Kasey!

    Hopefully where you'll be going from here is onto better and brighter things.
     
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    Good luck! It sounds like your dad is ok, if he outright asked and is telling your mom. I hope that goes well :slight_smile: . You're in my thoughts!
     
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    My dad texted me good night... Sort of like everything was normal. It's not.

    Not sure what the next few days will bring.
     
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    Hi there! While you might not have been ready, or wanted to talk with them just yet, from the sounds of it, your dad seems to have taken it well (to some degree). Texting you back after the conversation, is a good sign for your dad being open enough to continue listening to you, and trying to understand you better - even though it might not feel this way.

    I hope the coming days will go well for you. Your dad might be the first one to come around. (*hug*)
     
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    Hold your head up high kasey I'm proud of u for coming out (*hug*)
     
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    I know this has been on your mind for a while and whilst it may not be the way you wanted it, it is at least 'out there' now. I'm sure a certain amount of anxiety remains and I hope you'll stay connected and let us know how things go.

    Thinking of you. (*hug*)
     
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    Goodluck!!!
     
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    I know that it can be very difficult when it feels like someone "forced" you out... I hope you do alright (*hug*)
     
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    My parents found out this past August...we've never discussed it. They took away my laptop- the one I'm using now- and every time my dad and I are in the same room I want to scream, "Just say what you have to already!!!!"
    The girl I'm in love with has a boyfriend:'( I've seen him kiss her and everything.
    And I know deep in my heart of hearts that I'll never love anyone else...my friends keep telling me to move on, but I know that even if I do love someone else, it will always be her face I see. She will ALWAYS be the one I want. Always.
    Please help me.
     
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    well, less than ideal Kasey but from the sounds of it he knew something was up and he didn't freak out!! so thats a positive, he kept the lines of communication open and volunteered to talk with your mom, that makes him an ally for you. so, now you move forward head held high and skirts aswishing.(*hug*) you are one of the strongest people i know here.:kiss:
     
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    Being found out is a scary experience. I was unlucky enough to forget to clear the web history after I visited this site on my mom's laptop, so she saw it in there and came up to talk to me about it after I went to bed. I hope your parents react well. The fact that your dad said good night like everything is normal may be an indication that things are going to be all right. I hope that's the case. Good luck to you!
     
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    I hope you are ok. It's hard to tell without knowing tone as to how things will turn out. Hoping for the best.
     
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    so its been a few days and i was wondering how you are getting on with all this. hope everything is ok sweetie(*hug*)
     
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    My mom asked me if I was gay, years before I started to understand I was bi... Weird. Anyway, I hope you are OK (*hug*)