Church and Facebook.

So.... Chase here. I've been hiding from my church for a while and... My mom gave me a little push out of the closet. Still, I couldn't have been happier, despite not expecting this.

My mom wrote this-


"A few months ago, a month or so before she got sick, my children's Godmother called me and asked me what was going on with Autumn. Autumn had become distant and angry to her and pushing her away.

After a long conversation, I told her the truth. Autumn had realized that as much as she tried to be what everyone expected her to be, that she felt as if she were male. She was very uncomfortable trying to be what others expected her to be, but she was most upset about disappointing Vicki. She didn't know how to tell her, and she didn't know what to expect.


Vicki told me that she loved Autumn no matter what. That nothing she (he) could do, would ever change that. They would have eventually had that conversation, but God had other plans for Vicki and took her before she had the opportunity to reassure her Godchild.

I wish she would have had that opportunity, for so many reasons. My youngest child would now like to go by the name Chase. And be referred to by male pronouns. This has not been easy for any of us, but one thing has been easy. I love Chase, and I love my other two children, Christian, and Amber with all my heart. Nothing can change that.

If this is difficult for me, I can only imagine how difficult it can be for others. But love is what we are all here to learn and to teach. I love my son as much as I loved him as my daughter. I hope we can all learn and grow through this together, as this is not something I ever studied or expected.

I truly believe that love is the only thing that is important in this life, and it is what God sent us here for. Both to learn and to teach. If you can't find it in your heart to accept my child, I do understand. We are all in different places in our lives, and none of this is easy.

Love is easy though. Just opening your heart, and loving those who have a different path, that is easy. Chase's life will be, by definition, difficult. Even if he had decided to ignore it and live as a female, his life would have been difficult. But my baby decided to be true to himself, and I can't even imagine how brave he had to be to do so.

My heart breaks for the friendships and the connections he will lose. But hopefully those will be compensated by the true love and friendship he will build throughout his life, living authentically.

He loves his church with all his heart, and I pray they can love him for who he is, and appreciate him for all he can give. I do know there are churches who will, but this one is where his heart is. Churches teach many things, but Jesus taught just one, and that was (and is) love. Nothing else really matters."



Thanks mom...

 

Thanks guys! It made me nervous but also so happy!