Out to friends on Facebook

Congrats

I hate facebook; the way that everyone gets the stuff in the newsfeed.

Mine still says I'm single, even though I've been going out with my boyfriend for like 2 and a half months... I just don't really feel like changing it, coz I know that a lot of girls in my school will start stalking him :S

 

Just want to back this up. I went virtually my whole time in college without pursuing relationships because it took me so long to accept myself for who I am (I was 21, nearly 22, when I started coming out to friends) and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

 

Congratulations!

 

I'll throw in my 2 cents on this, too. Not only did I waste all my time in hs and college, but I guess I was angry and jealous at everyone else finding someone, so I basically pushed all my friends away. Luckily since coming out, I have reconnected with many of them.

Congratulations on coming out on Facebook. I have yet to switch the preference on my profile. But, since Tuesday I stopped giving a damn and started openly supporting all the gay marriage causes.

 

Hey a couple of points.

There's no point looking back. I wasted college and about 6 years since but we can't turn the clock back. I haven't had any relationships but I've had plenty of other good experiences instead and made some great friends at college.

Coming out on Facebook: isn't it a bit impersonal just to change your status. Couldn't some people be a bit hurt you didn't tell them personally? I am planning to come out on Facebook on my 30th birthday in 12 days but was also planning to also send a long e-mail to everyone rather than just update my status.

 

I know exactly what you mean. It wasn't until I was 25 before I came out, and I totally let some of the opportunities at college slip right by.

But, it is what it is. If you spend your time looking back and moping around about the past, you'll wind up letting even more time slip by instead of doing what you should be. Like I always say-What's the point of life if you ain't gonna live it? Don't worry about what was. Those pages are written and the ink is dry. Learn from what you wrote there, grab life by the balls, and start living it!

 

Major congrats!
Speaking of having a boyfriend in hs, that's something I really want!!

 

I've thought about doing this a few times... I really should. But right now it's blank and it's fine! It would be kind of weird for all my friends to see "XYZ is now interested in men", as if I wasn't before...

 

I think you should change it. I did.

 

Congrats on getting the courage to change your facebook. I still have to work up the nerve to do it yet.
I made the same mistake that you did. I didn't have a boyfriend or come out while I was in high school and college. I let those years slip by with nothing to really show for it except for a degree. Just know that you're not the only one.

 

I plan on coming out as soon as this year ends because I will be finishing high school and going to college. That way I can make friends that know who I am from the start and I'm not wondering how they will react when they find out that I'm gay. I want to come out in high school, but I dont think I would have enough support and I would get depressed, so Im settling for first thing at college

 

Musician, that's great! I didn't tell a few select friends until college, but I'm not really out to the college students here. Although tonight I'm going to a QSA Safe Space Training Workshop, where you learn how to be an ally for the LGBT community. So I'm pretty sure that one guy who invited me knows... Nice guy, but a senior. Out of my league. If it ever comes up, I think I would say yes, I'm gay to whoever asks. Unless, you know, the person asking is being a dumbface, like my roommate.
As for facebook, I'm so grateful for the private message option. That's how I came out to two of my friends, while not revealing to all my Facebook acquaintances (including my MOM) my true sexuality.

 

I put it on Facebook and nothing happened. It apparently didn't announce it. Feels kind of nice to have it there doesn't it though?

 

Yup, it might seem like something so small, but it really does feel huge!

 

Very good! Don't worry, you will stay on that path. Once you come out to a few people, you'll realize that it's actually much easier than you thought, and once you're out, it's incredibly liberating, like seeing the world in color for the first time. I actually went from completely closeted to completely out in about three weeks, and I haven't looked back since. I'm very excited for you, because it sounds like you're very much where I was a couple of years ago, and the ride is exhilarating!