So I've told my mom and my best friend! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people coming out

boarder25 · 22nd May 2007, 08:45 PM

A few weeks ago, I finally brought up the courage to tell my mom I was gay. She was accepting and everything, didn't really make much of a big deal about it. She was pretty disappointed about not having grandchildren, but I assured her I'd probably still adopt as I want children when I'm older. So all is well on that front.

A couple days after that I told my best friend. He couldn't have been more accepting. He knows a few other gay/bi people, so I already knew in advance he had no problem with it. Still, I couldn't have asked for a better friend. He's even gone out of his way to help me meet some other gay guys, while still doing his best to respect my wishes to keep my sexuality pretty much a secret. When someone says something homophobic, he will gladly say something to them, and I can tell comments like that really bug him. If I didn't know better I'd say he's gay

We've become even better friends after I told him I'd say actually.

So yeah, I'm glad my mom knows and she accepts me just the same, and I'm simply blown away by the response of my friend. I couldn't possibly imagine how anyone could have a better and more supporting friend.

22nd May 2007, 08:54 PM

That's really really awesome that it worked out for you like that. You're really lucky to not only have a mom like that but a friend too!

Zec24 · 22nd May 2007, 09:33 PM

I agree with Emperor. You are really lucky to have such understanding people around you. Congrats on coming out too.

boarder25 · 28th May 2007, 07:47 PM

Thanks guys, I'm just so grateful for what I have now. I know so many have such a horrible experience with coming out to their parents, and I'm just so glad I was lucky enough to have a mom who wasn't angry in the slightest, and to have such an awesome best friend.

SadConfusedBandGeek · 29th May 2007, 07:37 PM

awww thats awesome!!

Congratz on working up enough courage to do it! The result was certanly rewarding

ampthejazz · 29th May 2007, 07:55 PM

That's so awesome man. I'm glad everything's worked out so far!

Miaplacidus · 29th May 2007, 09:20 PM

I wish things were like that here...

Swimmerboy · 30th May 2007, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by miaplacidus

I wish things were like that here...

What's it like for you?

Swimmerboy · 30th May 2007, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by boarder25

A few weeks ago, I finally brought up the courage to tell my mom I was gay. She was accepting and everything, didn't really make much of a big deal about it. She was pretty disappointed about not having grandchildren, but I assured her I'd probably still adopt as I want children when I'm older. So all is well on that front.

A couple days after that I told my best friend. He couldn't have been more accepting. He knows a few other gay/bi people, so I already knew in advance he had no problem with it. Still, I couldn't have asked for a better friend. He's even gone out of his way to help me meet some other gay guys, while still doing his best to respect my wishes to keep my sexuality pretty much a secret. When someone says something homophobic, he will gladly say something to them, and I can tell comments like that really bug him. If I didn't know better I'd say he's gay

We've become even better friends after I told him I'd say actually.

So yeah, I'm glad my mom knows and she accepts me just the same, and I'm simply blown away by the response of my friend. I couldn't possibly imagine how anyone could have a better and more supporting friend.

OMG! You make me want to do it! But, I don't have enough courage right now.

beckyg · 30th May 2007, 05:59 AM

When my son came out to his best straight male friend, it went really well too. This friend was taking a Human Sexuality class at the college and when my son came out to him, he just started talking about everything he'd learned in this class about the variances in human sexuality. It was great. Ironically, I go to this same class and give presentations on a regular basis now because I remember the influence it had on my sons' friend and how important it is for them to hear personal exeriences from people who have been there.

Rob13 · 30th May 2007, 05:13 PM

That is awsome! I came out to my mom not long ago. I got a similar response. I kinda wish I had a friend like yours... He sounds really supporting. I live in a homophobic town atm, so I am not expecting any of my friends to be as good as him any time soon. But I am off to Ottawa for University in 2 months so I don't really care as much now... I'm really glad everything is working out and I really like your thinking. Being grateful for everything and such. That kind of thinking will only lead to more good things. Again, congratz at coming out! I know it is hard... lol.

Rob

coreyjazz23 · 28th Sep 2008, 11:46 AM

It's always great to have a friend who is that accepting. My situation is similar...except for the fact my my great friend is bi as well.

Mikeyy · 7th Oct 2008, 05:31 AM

*cough cough*

that was a MASSIVE BUMP!

EM68 · 7th Oct 2008, 02:55 PM

Awesome!

Derek the Wolf · 7th Oct 2008, 06:59 PM

Congrats! It's great to hear you've got a friend like that, it always makes the whole process so much smoother. xD

7th Oct 2008, 07:16 PM

Congratulations! I'm glad everything went well for you.

22nd May 2007, 08:45 PM	#1
boarder25 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: suburbs of Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 167 Join Date: Feb 2007	So I've told my mom and my best friend! A few weeks ago, I finally brought up the courage to tell my mom I was gay. She was accepting and everything, didn't really make much of a big deal about it. She was pretty disappointed about not having grandchildren, but I assured her I'd probably still adopt as I want children when I'm older. So all is well on that front. A couple days after that I told my best friend. He couldn't have been more accepting. He knows a few other gay/bi people, so I already knew in advance he had no problem with it. Still, I couldn't have asked for a better friend. He's even gone out of his way to help me meet some other gay guys, while still doing his best to respect my wishes to keep my sexuality pretty much a secret. When someone says something homophobic, he will gladly say something to them, and I can tell comments like that really bug him. If I didn't know better I'd say he's gay We've become even better friends after I told him I'd say actually. So yeah, I'm glad my mom knows and she accepts me just the same, and I'm simply blown away by the response of my friend. I couldn't possibly imagine how anyone could have a better and more supporting friend.

22nd May 2007, 08:54 PM	#2
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a Tournaments Won: 15	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! That's really really awesome that it worked out for you like that. You're really lucky to not only have a mom like that but a friend too!

22nd May 2007, 09:33 PM	#3
Zec24 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 433 Join Date: Apr 2007	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! I agree with Emperor. You are really lucky to have such understanding people around you. Congrats on coming out too.

28th May 2007, 07:47 PM	#4
boarder25 Well Known Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: suburbs of Los Angeles, CA Age: 21 Posts: 167 Join Date: Feb 2007	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! Thanks guys, I'm just so grateful for what I have now. I know so many have such a horrible experience with coming out to their parents, and I'm just so glad I was lucky enough to have a mom who wasn't angry in the slightest, and to have such an awesome best friend.

29th May 2007, 07:37 PM	#5
SadConfusedBandGeek Band Geek Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay or Bi?? Out Status: Everyone but parents Location: Canada Age: 20 Posts: 1,129 Join Date: May 2007	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! awww thats awesome!! Congratz on working up enough courage to do it! The result was certanly rewarding __________________ When In Doubt, Pull Out!!! Hahaha Dirty Band Jokes

29th May 2007, 07:55 PM	#6
ampthejazz EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Maine Age: 23 Posts: 486 Join Date: Oct 2006	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! That's so awesome man. I'm glad everything's worked out so far! __________________ It's beautiful, and funny, and good.

29th May 2007, 09:20 PM	#7
Miaplacidus Cheshire Cat Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gayer than not Out Status: Everyone who asks Location: Atlantida, Uruguay Age: 23 Posts: 5,094 Join Date: Feb 2007	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! I wish things were like that here... __________________ We are all mad here.

30th May 2007, 05:59 AM	#10
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 51 Posts: 7,581 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! When my son came out to his best straight male friend, it went really well too. This friend was taking a Human Sexuality class at the college and when my son came out to him, he just started talking about everything he'd learned in this class about the variances in human sexuality. It was great. Ironically, I go to this same class and give presentations on a regular basis now because I remember the influence it had on my sons' friend and how important it is for them to hear personal exeriences from people who have been there. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

30th May 2007, 05:13 PM	#11
Rob13 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Ottawa Age: 24 Posts: 60 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! That is awsome! I came out to my mom not long ago. I got a similar response. I kinda wish I had a friend like yours... He sounds really supporting. I live in a homophobic town atm, so I am not expecting any of my friends to be as good as him any time soon. But I am off to Ottawa for University in 2 months so I don't really care as much now... I'm really glad everything is working out and I really like your thinking. Being grateful for everything and such. That kind of thinking will only lead to more good things. Again, congratz at coming out! I know it is hard... lol. Rob

28th Sep 2008, 11:46 AM	#12
coreyjazz23 One With The Multiverse Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: LaGrange, GA Age: 22 Posts: 101 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! It's always great to have a friend who is that accepting. My situation is similar...except for the fact my my great friend is bi as well. __________________ Why can't they have gay people in the army? I think they are just afraid of a thousand guys with M16s going, "Who'd you call a faggot?" Let's get one thing straight; I'm not.

7th Oct 2008, 05:31 AM	#13
Mikeyy Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 20 Posts: 176 Join Date: Oct 2008	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! cough cough that was a MASSIVE BUMP!

7th Oct 2008, 02:55 PM	#14
EM68 Happily Married! :) Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Stoughton, Massachusetts USA Age: 44 Posts: 4,327 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! Awesome!

7th Oct 2008, 06:59 PM	#15
Derek the Wolf Furry Overlord Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Majority Location: Illinois Age: 21 Posts: 1,325 Join Date: Jul 2008	Re: So I've told my mom and my best friend! Congrats! It's great to hear you've got a friend like that, it always makes the whole process so much smoother. xD __________________

7th Oct 2008, 07:16 PM	#16
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