I tried to come out to my parents when I was fourteen. I didn't have any friends I could come out to first. Even though I was sort of prepared, I wasn't prepared enough. They told me it was a phase. I went way more crazy than I expected. I wasn't prepared for that. I still constantly obsess about my sexual orientation. It's absolute torture. I also feel like the world is trying to turn me straight. I'm going crazy and no one is helping me. My therapist isn't specialized enough to deal with this. I don't even know what I'm dealing with. I suspect it's OCD, but it could be other stuff. I've tried going to other therapists. The ones I went to were clueless or just plain huggy-wuggy. Where can I get real help?
The first mistake is thinking a therapist can 'resolve' your sexuality issues, therapists deal with problems and being gay isn't a problem, it's the problems that it causes are the issue. How old are you? Has it been a year since you tried to come out or 5 years, if it's been a number of years I'd approach your parents again and explain that you still have these feelings and see what they say. But above all else, don't get angry with them.
When I was in school and living with my parents, I felt isolated. My sexuality was causing me tremendous guilt and I hated myself for it. This was a never-ending cycle for me, and I thought I would lose my mind. Then one day I tried a different approach. I actually embraced my sexuality. Not only did i recognize it as a truth, I accepted it. Going online to support groups like this one helped me out. Reading people's stories and watching videos about people who were going through the same thing... it all inspired me to be myself and be happy with who I am. It's hard now, but one day, your life will change. You'll feel like a brand new you. Just try to reach out like you've done on this forum in the meantime. And hang in there. I'm rooting for ya!!!
I too struggled coming out, and still have not to my family. An old friend of mine is maybe the only one that knows. It took many sleepless nights to even pluck up that courage to tell him. A lady friend of mine is also bi and I'm not sure she's latched onto it yet. To get the best help, I'd say search for the hotlines and try and call them.
