I posted this in the introduction thread, didn't know there was a coming out thread, thought I'd just share it here also. Hello Everyone! I wanted to introduce myself to you all and let you know about my backstory and why I am here. My name is Nathan and I'm 23 years old. I recently came out to a few people this July and it has been very difficult. I have been happily partnered for about 4 years now. Neither my partner nor I are out, and this last year has been hard on our relationship. My partner didn't want to continue the relationship, he wanted to "see if he can live a normal straight life". I wouldn't let him go, because we both know how much we love each other. We sought out a counselor, but that led to him ending it completely, he wouldn't accept who he really was. Nobody knew that I was in a relationship. I was a mess and didn't know where to turn, so I turned to the one person I thought would help me, my mom. I was first met with fear, fear that I was going to hurt myself. Soon after though things turned for the worst. I was met with hostility from my mom, many nasty things were said to me and I was floored. That night my partner came home (we live together) and I told him I told her. He was shocked at first and he began to relize the big picture. Thankfully he relized he didn't want to lose what we had and he finally accepted himself for who he is. We have grown stronger ever since. He is not out still, either am I though, well to an extent I am. My mom, dad, brother and one friend knows. Now I'm dealing with an unaccepting family (my brother seems okay thankfully). That is why I came to this site, to find others in the same situation, find support and to share my story. Thanks everyone!
Hi, sorry to hear your mom didn't take it well (*hug*) But you seem to be staying positive and coping well. Good for you. Welcome to EC, take it from me, it's a great place if your going through a rough time. All the guys on here are awesome and give great advice and support.
thank you! I really appreciate it. I'm trying my best to stay positive, not always easy, but I'm hanging in there.
Hey Nathan, Stick to your partner. Gay life can be difficult particularly with your family, but in time they will appreciate who you really are. I have been with my partner for a while and initially my family were not accepting, but over time we have both become accepted. Neither of us are out at our work places, but have some great friends who are accepting. I think this is the time when friends become more like your extended family, giving you support through the good and bad time. Hang in there Nathan.... ^__^
It can be hard with family, but remember your partner is part of your family too. COngrats on sticking up for yourself and your love
Welcome to EC! I've found this group to be very comforting, from the "gosh, I'm not alone out there" angle to the very specific tidbits of encouragement and support that may directly relate to my situation. Good luck!
thanks everyone. I appreciate it a lot. I find it helpful reading other peoples stories. one day things will be as they should.