(This post can be a little graphic with some harsh words, your advised.) Well, it wasnt easy but it was hard, the rest of my family is fine, but my dad is homophobic and it was hard. this is kinda of a role play, so try to bear with me...: Me: Dad, are you really homophobic? Dad: what does that mean? Me: I mean do you hate or are affraid of gay people? Dad: What are you talking about!? Me: Well, would you rather have a gay son or a straight son? Dad: What doyou think?! Me: Straight...? Dad: Duh. Me: Well I have a confesstion..... Dad: What? You a fag? Me: No.. thats not a proper tem to use, that aint nice to say about us. Dad: What fag? Me: Yeah! Its prounce gay. Dad: Oh, so you a fag huh? You a like sucking dick and reciving it in the ass huh?! Me: Well if you put it that way... Dad: Get away from me, go up stairs......! He was really upset and thoughout the night it was awkward and silent, although he didnt ignore me completely he spoken a little bit there and here but still nothing about the gay stuff. I was texting my friend and she says: "Its not your fault that you are this way, your dad shouldnt be acting like this, he should be happy for who you are and grown a good son." I'll never forget what she says!
Unfortunately alot of people who have no experiences with gay people go "there" in their mind and that is exactly what your Dad did. You need to download some PFLAG information and give it to him immediately. Educate him and if you are not having sex then tell him that, for sure! Keep the conversation going. http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=594&srcid=416
Ouch, hon, that hurts. Definitely not the ideal situation!!! Just remember that you are wonderful person who doesn't deserve to be spoken to like that! You deserve so much better! Can you talk to some people in your life who are supportive of you, and who know that you're gay? Do any of your siblings know? Aww. Hope that you realize that even though he doesn't like it, there's nothing wrong with it, and that you still deserve to be spoken to with respect!
I am really sorry to hear that you dad reacted this way. As Becky mentioned, you should keep talking with him and educate him. It sounds like that your dad was really surprised by it. With a bit of education that will allow him to gain a different perspective on what it means to be gay, he might come around to it sooner rather than later. Hang on to the words of your friend. Being gay is normal. There is nothing wrong with it. I hope your dad will come around to it. (*hug*)
People who say crap like that can't be educated. If that was my dad I don't know what I'd do. Probably something EXTREMELY gory and violent. I'm sorry about your situation. Is your dad, by chance, an alcoholic? It could be the beer talking.
I'm sorry, so sorry. Maybe it will work out, maybe it won't, but I hope your dad can love you enough to change his ideas
Just like everyone says stick with it. Its scary facing him I know but you can do it Maybe a good friend will help be with you?
