My Sad Story

I'm sorry you have gone through all this. The old saying is true "what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger". Congratulations on pulling through! My own grandmother was raped by her stepfather resulting in her first born child that she loved as much as her others. She was always a very strong woman and went on to have ten more children after that. Some people go through some very difficult things and make it through. Maybe this is encouragement for anybody out there who feels that their life cannot get better. It can!

 

Wow - I'm really sorry to read about the challenges that you've faced, but I'm so encouraged and inspired that you've pulled through it all as you have. Again - welcome to EC and thanks for sharing this with us.

 

I think there is a spiritual dimension to all of us that we sometimes don't connect with very well. I know that's the case for me, but I'm working on it. Without nurturing that spiritual dimension, I feel we (at least I) am too focussed on self, and not focussed enough on others around me. That inward focus has lead to an isolation and loneliness that in turn took me down a very self destructive path.

Not sure if others can relate, or know what I'm talking about...

Having faith helps with accepting our situation and moving on, even though the road ahead isn't always well marked.

Again - thanks for sharing your story.

 

I wundt have been alive if my mum knew english, cuz she didnt want me and my twin bro, but she cudnt speak english, and cudnt hav an abortion so she had to have us lol

 

No one got raped.. in my family..hope not neway. But bad stuff did happen like my mum tried to kill my sister by posioning her, and she did once chase my 2 eldest bros wiv a big kitchen knife, i think it was becos thru stress. And my uncle got framed and put in jail.

 

Ethan - Yikes! That sounds like pretty bad stuff too! Are you managing ok now? Are things better at home? I hope so - sounds like your mom's had a tough life too - not sure what else would cause someone to act that way. I hope she's better, and you're not in any danger. If you are, I hope you can get some help. I'm sure there are people or agencies that could help.

Let us know if there is anything that any of us can do.

 

Oh god, sorry for what happened to you Thommthomm, well, Like everybody, I'm so glad that you can overcome all your challenege, it has been a long road for you, I'm not suure if I can do what you did^^

My sis didnt get rape, but she has to do a bortion, becuase her bf made a mistake on her, they could keep it, but that freaking crazy dude didnt

Ethan, my mom used to chase me and my sis all around the house, and we had a big garden so we were lucky, lol, but the thing we were scared the most is that she could get a heart attack and fell on the ground, so we had to stop to let her beat us

I used to be sex abused, when I was only in 2nd grade. some guys in my school and a dude in the church. He took away my virginity, he was in mid 20, and he said he 'll kill me if I tell someone. I was so scared but I dint know anybody to tell, and it went on and on till my middle school, when I moved here

 

Yer its kinda normal now, since my mum is back to her self.. neway she doesnt have her fits nemore, even if she did we can stop her neway. And wen im angry im quite dangerous myself, must hav got it from her..:bang: . She was only like that bcoz when she was in hong kong her husband cheated on her and she left me step sistas i think.

 

Soory to hear that.. That happened to sumone in my primary school he got raped by sum guy in high school dat took drugs.. lukily i werent hangin around. Being abused sounds hard to cope wiv..

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your childhood Thommthomm. Mine sounds like a dream compared to what happened with you, but mine wasn't easy either. My father constantly had affair after afair after afair when I was a child and that's why he's moving on to his third wife. One day I "looked at him wrong" and he threw me out in the middle of February in a snow storm in New Jersey, and all I had on was a t-shirt and shorts. I had to actually show him through a window me dialing 911 on my cell before he let me back in. I can also recall a day when I was five he got so made at me he threw me in the car and drove me to what he called an orphanage (it was a battered woman's shelter) and threatened to leave me there. But that's about as bad as it got between us, and with some therapy and his moving to Florida we've actually started to be civil again.

 

If it were me, I'd let him die alone. I don't know, I think for him seeing you might bring a sense of victory to him, like he still has a grip on you even in his dying state.

 

Don't ya just hate all the steps? Personally, I've gotten tired of it, I've had so many I don't think I can remember all their names. But, I know who you were talking about. He raped your mother and basically killed your sister, and if he saw you he might think that he owns you or he let you live and you owe him or some twisted thing like that. It's hard to understand, but that's the first thing that came to my mind when I thought about it.

 

i find the big posts hard to read but do understand it. you have had a bad time and i hope that you are better and ok now. im also sorry that your grandmother died at only 45yo it was very young for a grand mother, was she sick???