I haven't really come out to anyone since I was 16. Despite being gay I had a straight relationship that lasted almost 3 years since I liked him for who he was and not for the fact he was a guy. It's been over 2 years since we split and despite all the time we knew each other before and during our relationship I never told him my 'secret'.... until today. As we still keep in contact on friendly footing, I'd been planning on telling him for a while about one of the 'other' reasons I'd split with him back then but kept getting cold feet. Since I can't see him face to face anymore I settled for writing out a huge wall of text in a message basically coming out to him and trying to reassure him of a few things along the way. Since he has work in the morning he won't have read it yet but I just feel so much better for getting it out there for better or for worse. I'm one step closer to finally being completely out.
Update on the situation! He finally read my message a few hours ago and responded with so many positive things, pretty much saying that he was glad that I'd told him and that I was really brave for coming out to him as well as saying that the way I did it was really thoughtful as well. I feel SO much better! I'd honestly assumed the worst so that either if something did go wrong I was prepared for it, or so that things could only get better, and well, they certainly did!
I can imagine the relief you must have felt after reading his message! It took courage to write the message to him, not knowing how he might respond or what he would say. It's wonderful that he responded in such a positive way. Congratulations on coming out to him.
Congrats! It is awesome! I was also in a straight relationship, but since the break-up (a year ago), we haven't talk. And she doesn't know about my big secret.
Good job! Anxiety is best confronted directly, and it is wonderful you got both acceptance and support.
