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Nicole's Coming Out Journey: A Work in Progress

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by MissNicole, Oct 21, 2015.

  1. MissNicole

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    First things first. Almost two weeks ago, I spent the entire day getting the courage to tell my big sister I'm trans. It was great. I knew I was gunna tell her, I just had to feel it was the right time. And just as she was leaving, was the best time to get hugs.

    That day I also told my parents, and slowly I've been telling everyone important. To the point that. Maybe now I should tell work. [I've heard you have to be living as female to get the HRT, but also to eventually get the surgery, so the sooner I start the count, the better]

    Now I inadvertently came out to a supervisor at work:

    I'd brought up the conversation of fitting rooms at my work, and then moved on to, what if a transgirl wanted to use the fitting rooms [and transguy to the other one]. Her: "Yep, they can."
    Me: "Okay, do what about working here, there's no problems?"
    Her: " Nope, equal opportunities, though I haven't met anyone that's trans, so can't give comment "
    Me: " Actually you have. "
    Her: "What?"
    Shit...xD
    Me: "Uuhhhmmm, I'm trans"

    I do this myself apparently.

    Today....

    Walking up to a colleague..
    Him: "What do you want?"
    Me: "You" -winks-
    Him: "What, are you gay?"
    Me: "not limited to that, I'm pansexual."
    Him: "I had no idea."
    I laugh and say: "well is not like I walked up and go 'hey my names xxxx, currently, and I'm pansexual"
    Him: "wait are you trans"

    I honestly did not think anyone would pick it up from 'currently' x.x

    And now back to work... xD
    Gunna talk to HR at lunch break, if I can get the courage.
     
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    This is a very inspiring story in my very honest opinion. My dialogue sort of resembled that when I came out to my dad and my brother. I don't think it will happen like that with my mo though but anyway. I couldn't see in your thread if your parents handled it well but I sincerely hope they do. It is truly terrible if a person gets rejected just because they love their same gender. It's just that some families have very high expectations for their children and ignore the fact that it's their children who will in the future determine how they live, not another person.

    Sorry if I am rambling here, that is sort of who I am. I take it you are still allowed to work at your place of employment after that conversation with your work supervisor? Are you close to this colleague? You dont need to answer this, it is just my ever rambling curiosity. I am still laughing at the bit about your colleague. He seems to have a bright mind lol!

    Good Luck,
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    Yeah oops. My dad took it... Quietly, but they, dad and step mum both said they accepted, but we're just taken by surprise. Haven't discussed it with then since, nor with my sister.

    Not close to my colleague, I'm pretty new here. But I felt that, if he's figured it out, doesn't have a problem, then asking him how other people might react would be good, plus I didn't want to say no, and then later say yeah actually I am.

    But also yeah, I'm pretty sure I'll be allowed to stay working here. The company is actually pretty decent, large primarily clothing store that's in England and a few other countries. Everyone's being really friendly about it.
    And even some friends have said "actually, I'm not surprised" or "yeah, I figured" xD
     
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    I am so happy that things went so well for you! Congratulations and good luck with telling any other people you know!
     
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    I have two people currently on my to do list to tell xD
     
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    Aaaand.. I told my GP! He's gunna get back to me as soon as he knows who I need to contact for this and other things. And then I randomly came out to two colleagues, tried to be sly... Hinted at it and then passed for the lift to go down and the doors didn't close, so ended up explaining things xD
     
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    Ahhhh! I came out to HR.. spoke to the junior supervisor yesterday, told the senior supervisor today. I'm getting a new badge for work! I'm so excited x3
     
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    Hi there! It seems that your coming out journey has taken on speed. Congratulations on the successes so far.

    It's wonderful too that you have started coming out at work, and that your co-workers have been supportive. Nice that you are getting a new badge. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats! Hope I can be as successful at coming out as you
     
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    Ooooh my gosh, I came out to my mum and she was kinda just "Yeah... Cool." Then said "Do right by yourself and be happy, I'll always support you."

    xD So now... facebook... also she gave me an idea on how to further my referrals and stuff.
     
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    Congrats :slight_smile:
     
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    Wow :slight_smile: your posts have really put a smile on my face. Good for you! I am so glad you are getting positive responses.

    Bri
     
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    -hugs- I'm glad to make you smile~
     
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    This is awesome news. I'm so happy for you and glad that you have such positivity around you. Good for you. :grin:
     
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    Completely out on Facebook!
    And I just bought my deedpoll, thanks to support from my mum ^^
     
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    Delighted for you and proud of you.

    The deedpoll thing should make all your paperwork end of things go a lot smoother.



    (!!)(!)
     
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    That's awesome! Congrats!
     
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    I've legally changed my name!
    Dad/step mum don't know.
    Also I'm about to move out, and that will be in my new name too x3
     
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    Okay. Most things are in my new name. I had a talk with my Dad a little while ago and now he even calls me Nic. Most of the family do. I managed to get through Christmas and mostly just didn't even respond to my old name XD

    I'm so pleased with my dad, for him it was the hardest. But he got there. We also do a family newsletter, to all family and close friends. And he included a thing in there to express what happened, hardly had to change anything. It was good ^^;