So coming out is a major part of being in the LGBTQ+ community, and it's doesn't always turn out the way it should. Let this thread be the place for all the Coming Out fail stories...! **Disclaimer: This thread is in no way meant to mock those who have had bad coming out experience. This thread is tailored for those "funny coming out stories" that sort of worked themselves out". My heart goes out to each and every person who's hasn't had a positive coming out experience. I believe everyone deserves to had a supportive and loving coming out story. Anyway, here's my "fail" of a coming out story: Prior to this incident, I had not yet come out to myself. I was still in lou of my 1.5 year of questioning. I was positive I wasn't straight, and I knew that out of the two remander options in my book (ace or gay), I was probably lesbian. About a month ago, before I joined this forum, I would constantly google a bunch of "gay-ish things" on my phone in my private time. [I think I was so desperately confused that I even googled gay tests to see if for some reason I qualified as lesbian.] I did this a lot (as well as occasionally watch porn) before I went to bed in an incognito tab -- just in case my mom or one of my siblings decided to be a little snoopy when I wasn't around. I had no way anticipated that they would actually do this, but I had taken the extra-step. So, as you can imagine, it kind of sucked when I found out that they did do stuff like that. Well, one thing that I hadn't anticipated, was that I'd fall asleep with the incognito tab left on a google search for "Signs that I'm Gay". The one time that this happened, my sister snooped on my phone when I left it on the kitchen table with my book-bag the following morning. I came back and found her on my phone and caught a glance at my phone's screen and literally started having a mental freak out. My world went into slow-mo (I'm not even joking). My younger sister immediately interrogated me on the matter asking why I was googling that. Trying to be sly and acting on my feet, I quickly replied, "I don't know, maybe I rolled on my phone in my sleep and clicked some weird ad?" Which seeing as everyone in my family could see through me when I lied, didn't really work out. About a week later, my sister brought up the matter again. At that time, everyone was a little over edge than the norm because we were all psm-ing like nobody's business. My sister was feeling extra-salting because I was picked to make the first pumpkin pie of the fall season over her. In her efforts to spite me, my sister tells my mom in front of me and my other sister (the older of my two younger sisters) about my 'mysterious google search'. [I know my youngest sisters a brat, y'all don't have to tell me twice, we argue all the time.] I hadn't told anyone about "this little secret" because I was absolutely not sure how anyone of them would have reacted. My mom was pretty chill sometimes, but there had been many times where she and my father argue with me and my siblings about how middle schoolers (and some early high schoolers) where too young to know their sexuality. I was terrified that if I had eventually told her that I was gay, she would on the drop of the hat, reprimanded me for thinking that I was a lesbian. But, regardless of how many terrible ways I tried to imagine the outcome of this, not one of them was right. It go the way I had thought at all! After my sister had told my mom (and my other sister), my mom asked me if that google search had been at all helpful. She also kindly added that if I were gay it'd be okay. When I mortifyingly told her that I still didn't know, she shrugged and joking said she didn't want to sway my thoughts, but it would totally be cool because it was scientifically proven that gay people were more successful than straight. Gotta love my mom xD.
So one night, at about 10 pm, I came out to a few close friends. And then I spent a few months freaking out about how I'd tell everyone else. I was walking home one day when one of my friends turns to the other and says "oh you know she's gay right?"... ....And the other one said "yeah I've known since the day you told everyone." Now I didn't think I was very out, so I was a bit confused. Turns out that less than 15 minutes after I told them, one of my friends ran up to the car full of people, bangs on the window, and first thing he says is "Guys did you know she's gay?". And for the next few months, I was the only one who didn't know I was out. I live in a pretty liberal area, so apparently all of my friends just didn't mention anything. I felt like kind of an idiot at first, but then I realized that I basically got to just skip all of my social awkwardness over coming out. So while I realize most people would be annoyed with the aforementioned friend, I'm actually pretty ok with the whole situation. This is what happens when you have absolutely no idea what's going on. Has anyone else come out through gossip?
Yeah actually, twice. Put I think the funniest coming out of mine was when I told one of my friends and she wasn't even shocked and just said "Seriously? Am I the only straight one in this group?" "Maybe you just attract us or something :newcolor:"-Me "It's possible"
In middle school, there was a boy in my literature class who would always joke around. He was the class clown. One day, he went around asking all the girls in the class if they would marry him. They all just laughed and told him to 'stop being gross'. When he asked me, it went like this: Him: Will you marry me? Me: I'm gay. Him: Oh... What!? Several other students near us heard the conversation. The boy behind me was like, "You're gay!?" and I just nodded and said yeah. It was a major shock to everyone because I'm so quiet and people don't notice me much, and even just hearing my voice surprised them. All that week, I had people coming up to me asking, "Is it true!? Are you really gay!?" My best friend would always respond to them and then immediately drag me away from them. :lol: It was quite interesting!
Me: explains emotional detailed coming out story to friend over the phone Friend: "So.. do you want a strap on? Because I can buy you one."
I came out to someone once, and I wrote a rather long-winded, emotional response and they told me off for writing so much. "A few words would've sufficed!It took me ages to read all this!" they told me afterwards. I guess I do have a *slight* tendency to ramble. :icon_redf :eusa_doh:
