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Today was the day I guess. Funny how things happen

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by pman117, May 12, 2016.

  1. pman117

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    Welp, I did it. Today I actually admitted to someone for the first time that I liked guys. It was kind of spur of the moment and I don't necessarily think it was the best time, but it didn't feel like a bad time either. It also went extremely well.

    For those that read through my other post (the ridiculously long one in the Coming Out Advice section), the girl I admitted things to was one I had discussed a lot of relationship issues with. Exhausted is a better word actually. I sort just dropped it on her, told her I had something important to tell her and then basically said, "Remember the discussions we've had about that girl and relationship struggles and stuff? Well, it wasn't about a girl."

    She literally looked at me and said, "I know, I figured as much but I didn't want to address it because I wasn't sure if you didn't know yet or if you weren't ready to say so." We talked a little bit about it, talked about how it really doesn't change anything which is the response I hope I will always get (although I'm prepared for worse reactions).

    I do feel a little better in general, not a 100% cure but I know that's not what would happen. On the plus side it came fairly easily. I didn't really stumble with any of the words and I didn't find myself catching my breath or anything which was a relief. I also don't regret it at the moment, which was a concern that I would immediately want to take it back. I had actually planned on telling two other people this weekend over a lunch date (those reactions will also be good without a doubt) but for some reason I felt like I should tell this person right then and well, just did.

    Thanks for the support and advice guys. It's helped more than you can imagine.
     
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    Awesome, congrats :grin:
     
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    Congrats man! So glad it went well! Once you tell the first person, it gets easier from there, especially when you know you've already gotten one positive reaction
     
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    Congrats dude! ^^ Takes a lot of guts! Life can only get easier from here.
     
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    Hey yeah.

    Once you can say it out loud to one person, it's easier and easier s it goes on.

    You'll still be nervous for a while, but that will subside.

    I'm happy for you
     
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    I just read your first post and I am truly happy for you.

    You'll see how it gets better :slight_smile:

    Congratulations!!!!!!!(!)
     
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    Congratulations!

    You can now change your out status to one person :thumbsup: