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Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by VanceA, Mar 19, 2009.

  1. VanceA

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    I've told a couple of friends about me being Gay. My first friend was shocked to say the least, but she was very supportive and understanding. She was slightly let down that we weren't going to get married on a fishing boat anytime soon, but I think that disappointment is going to pass.

    The other two friends are a Gay couple that I lived with for about a year. They are the most understanding and helpful people that I've ever met. One of them thought i might have been Gay but never really approached the subject, the other was never knew but agreed that certain things ive done in the past should have given him clues.

    It was such a relief getting this off my chest and talking to someone, Its such a big weight to be lifted. I did have a minor setback last night when I was having a major panic attack about my life. But i leaned on them for support and got though it. I believe I have Anxiety issues that im going to have to resolve first off before i try and get into any relationships. Im slightly worried of telling my parents, but i do think that I'm going to have to give it some more time before i bring it to their attention. Its not that they aren't understanding (I have 6 cousins that are gay), But I feel like its going to be a disappointment to them if i let them know. I have to stop living my life for others, its making me go crazy.
     
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    Congratulations!
     
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    Well done ! :eusa_clap
     
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    that's great, congratulations
     
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    (*hug*) Aaaaah coming out. So amazing a thing.

    Grats!
     
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    Im still terrified to tell my parents, and a couple of closer friends.
     
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    congradulations.

    I've only told a couple friends, one of which I knew was gay before hand, which is why I told him. Even a telling a small number of people can be a huge relief.

    I still haven't told my parents, or family, and can appreciate the anxiety around that.
     
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    Thats awesome! Congrats!
     
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    Well done! One of my friends was a bit like that about the marriage, but she's still one of my best friends. Wow! Six gay cousins. I'd kill for one out of my 40 something!
     
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    Congrats on coming out! :eusa_clap

    Give it time. You'll soon realize how great you feel that it's now out in the open with others, which will enable you to tell the ones closest to you. Or at least that's how I found it easier.

    Congrats again!
     
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    I'm glad you found support in your close friends. I told my friends before I told my parents. It's very natural to be anxious about telling your parents. We grow up trying to please them and make them proud of us - but I'm sure it will be just fine.
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your friends! It sounds like that you have a good support network to rely on, which is great! I'm happy for you that you have started to be yourself around others.

    Coming out to our parents is probably the hardest thing we can do. Take your time, but it sounds like that it should be fine when you do come out to them.
     
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    Thanks again, I added another friend today, he just came out himself so i wanted to share with him. Im working on the friends that i know are going to be ok with it then work up to the tougher ones.
     
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    Congratulations :thumbsup: I'm glad it went so well.