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Nonplussed reaction.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by YermanTom, Sep 22, 2016.

  1. YermanTom

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    I had come out to a fellow volunteer and staff member in an organization I'm involved in a few months back. So I assumed that it was common knowledge. I was talking to another staff member (female) about family relationships and emotional intelligence, in relation to wills and her duties as an executrix. So the conversation went like this:
    Me: …… my brother is not aware of his or anyone else’s emotions.
    Her: but you are very emotionally clued in, you can see that in the way you deal with clients
    Me: I suppose that’s because I’ve done a lot of emotional work on myself, what with coming out and all that stuff
    The conversation went on for a while about family and technical issues. Then she put on that ‘wait a second WTF face’ and said “what do you mean ‘coming out’….”
    Me: I thought everybody knew …I’m GAY….
    Her: It doesn’t make any difference to me. I presume it was very difficult for you to deal with.
    We then talked about it for about an hour.

    I suppose the reason the gossip didn’t spread is that it’s an organization that takes client confidentiality very seriously.
     
  2. PotatoPotato

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    The moment you assume gossip but it doesn't happen - That is like the reversed world compared to most peoples experience.

    Still - I can understand the feeling if you are talking this way and someone doesn't know.