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Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Drizzt DoUrden, Mar 31, 2009.

  1. So, I just came out on Facebook. I'm really nervous right now and I'm having a hard time of thinking what to say so I'll just put what I set my status to.

    Joe "is gay. Joe doesn't want to hear you say that you already knew or that things make more sense now or ask why he didn't say something before. If you try to talk to Joe about it at school, he will ignore you."

    I commented on my status:
    "Please keep all homophobic comments to yourself. Remember that this is not about you; it is about me. I’m still the same person and expect you to treat me as such. Please also realize that it’s none of your business unless I choose to make it so. To those of you who I lied to or led to believe I was straight, I’m sorry that I had to, but please try to put yourself in my shoes. All questions, comments, and concerns can be directed towards me via Facebook email."

    I know that I can handle bigotry and homophobia. What I don't want to deal with is initial reactions. Hence why I didn't just post "is gay."

    I also set "Interested in" to "Men." I guess we'll see how it turns out... Hopefullly this will result in me being almost completely out. :/
     
  2. RaRa

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    That takes a lot of courage. I hope things go well. :slight_smile:

    I'm proud of you Joe. :'D

    (*hug*)
     
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    That took a lot of guts....congrats on being able to do that. :slight_smile:
    Hope it will go well.
     
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    Wow Joe, that is amazing! I hope that everything goes well!
    Congrats!!
     
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    That is the most fierce status ever. Totally fierce.

    Directly to the point, you show them whos the boss! Well done (*hug*)
     
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    I'm very proud and happy and can't wait to hear what everyone says. :slight_smile:
     
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    Well Done mate!
    Hope all goes well from here :grin:
     
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    Impressive dude! I'm curious about the reactions - keep us posted :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats. I am going to hold off on updating my facebook page. There are a few people I want to tell in person first.
     
  10. bob4carl09

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    Wow, that's pretty ballsy. Wish I had your guts! WD mate, let us know how the reactions go!
     
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    way to go joe,i have outed myself on facebook,but only two are in it,but congrats to you ,i'm looking forward to hearing your results as well,good luck.
     
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    Congrats.

    Did you happen to remember what day it was when you posted it? You should prepare yourself for some people to assume it's just an April Fools Day joke. It's only 10am here and already I have 5 people on my news feed with joke status updates.
     
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    You didn't post it today, right???

    Might not be the best time to post that today.

    Good job though!!
    If you're friends have a problem with it, do you really need them anyway?

    Edit: My text is yellow?????
    EDIT: My text is crossed out now????!!
     
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    congrats thats brave
     
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    thats awesome ^_^

    i hope people react well
     
  16. Thanks everyone :slight_smile:

    I was kind of worried about school, but I realized that most people wouldn't check their Facebooks until after school, and a lot of people were gone for History Day. But I still ended up only going for my last three classes. So I just have to get through tomorrow. *deep breath*

    And yes, unfortunately, I posted it on April 1. But if I hadn't, I wouldn't have done it at all... It was a somewhat spur-of-the-moment thing. (Not to say I didn't think about it thoroughly, because I did.) I'm hoping people will realize that it's not a joke by the way I presented it, and because it's not really something I would normally joke about.

    Edit: Oh, I forgot to mention that a couple of my school friends "Liked" my status, and a person from my old school, who I don't really get along with, messaged me and told me she was proud of me and I was brave for doing it. That was pretty cool.
     
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    That's awesome congrats :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats!!! That takes a lot of courage, but yay!
     
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    If only I haven't added my sisters and cousins as friends... I would set my interested in to men.:eusa_sile(Currently it's blank.)
     
  20. You can block specific people from seeing anything you'd like. I did that because I have an aunt and cousins I don't want to know just yet.

    Go to Settings> Privacy(manage)> Profile> Basic/Personal Info (don't know which)> Choose "Customize" on the drop-down menu.