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And so the coming out begins

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by LEOs curse, Apr 6, 2009.

  1. LEOs curse

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    I finally got the balls to tell someone. im still shaking from it.

    The days before saying i fealt so anxious and really wanted to get it done, then when it came to the time facing him, i just could not say it!!!! It was like trying to say "dude, i just killed your parents. hope your ok with that" (im morbid i know)
    Once i said it though, he was like "ah, your gay, well thats cool........... I really never thought you were gay, but thanks for telling me"

    It was such a reliefe to have a good response, at the same time i was thinking in my head "this is such a big deal to me, why isnt he seeing it as a big deal" even though thas what we all dread when coming out.

    I feel so good, yet a bit freaked out still. I have now pierced the balloon. theres no going back now^_^
    I couldnt have picked a better person to come out to. even now he is still txting me with comfort.

    My advice to all is to do it slow and choose your first carefully. I think i would have died if my first was a bad experience. Also, now if i have any bad comings outs, i can moan to him about it.
     
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    Good for you congratulations!!!! Hmm I clearly remember that shaking ! Its normal to be a little afraid but with each person you have standing behind you ...it gets easier. I remember the worst for me was my dad. It took me two days of shaking and ummm ing and dropping hints before I said it. He and my brother started to laugh I was so scared but they were not laughing for the reason I thought. They looked at me and said "Yeah its about time you told us" and continued to laugh. I was so relieved !!!! (and here I thought I was not obvious LOL) Best of luck and congrats on the first rung of that ladder. -Jen
     
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    yay congratulations

    *hug* sounds like a great friend
     
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    congrats there guy,good for you,i remember telling my ex-wife,shaking couldn't get a word out and even tearing up,after twenty questions she finally guessed it as i pointed to her,then i said,glad to get that out,lol ,not having said a word previously, she wasn't the first but one of the most important ones in my life to come out to,no regrets,best wishes for you on the rest of your life coming out.
     
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    Congrats :slight_smile: I remember shaking to.
     
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    Congrats! The first is the hardest. It gets easier after that.
     
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    Ahh the shaking. The first time I said it out loud I shook. Congrats on coming out!
     
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    Yeah, the first is definitely the hardest (well, so far...) - mine I was practically in tears...
     
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    I WAS in tears the first time. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Ahh...
    I was sat down when I got 'the shaking' then fell over when I tried to stand up!
    Good for you I really hope everyone you choose to tell is as supportive... but you sound really smart with who you are telling so I'm sure you wont tell the wrong people at the wrong time!
     
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    Congratulations :thumbsup:
     
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    kudos on coming out!
     
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    Congratulations! You ar right about the right person whom you can come out to. It is very important. ^_^

    Now you have one person whom you can talk to about this, and it is great! :0
     
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    My first person wasn't difficult at all, because she was bi herself...
     
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    thanks guys. I was nervous as who to shoose because i dont have any gay/bi friends and i have no "girl" friends. i chose right though. actuall came out to a second person and they were so supportive, she offered her spare room in her house with he family if i have a bad coming out with my parents and i need to get out for a bit. it feels so good.
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your friends! It's a big step to take! Glad that it went well for you.
     
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    Congrats!! And don't worry...the shaking stops eventually!
     
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    Congrats! Now you know the feeling of being truly accepted for who you are... And it only keeps getting better from here on!
     
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    Yeaaah! :grin: Congratulations!
     
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    now im feeling a wish that i didnt come out. for some reason now, i get all paranoid that people are doing certain things around me because they know! god its like being on weed 24/7! Im sure it will pass though.