Coming out to my kids

Yay! Go Jim! I think this is very couragous of you. You are doing the right thing, if you tell them in a positive up beat way then they will take this as something positive, not something to be ashamed of... you might like to follow your coming out with a little lesson on privacy lol. This is not a dirty secret but peoples private feelings and emotions are not something that need to be shouted from the rooftops either. Kids are more understanding that we give them credit for.

Didn't you say that your wife's parents were really supportive of you? They could be a great help in reinforcing the message that this situation is normal not a source for snickering or pointing of fingers.

I say good luck to you. I belive that it well go well for you. Your wife has taken it well, the grandparents have taken it well, your kids are surrounded by open minded people and that will colour everything they think about homosexuality.

 

That's great Jim! I think it will be fairly easy for you to tell your kids. I've said this before but kids understand love really well! When I first came to PFLAG a friend I communicated with online had a gay son with a partner and kids. When his kids were asked at school why they had two dads, they would say "Because I'm lucky!" I LOVED that!

There is some wonderful books at this website in the children's section that might be helpful.

http://www.adlbooks.com/Browse.cfm?cat=CHI

 

Best of luck with it. Kids can be really great-you might get to them before they learn to hate people who are different. I'm sure you'll make it work out. It's great that your ex is supportive too.

 

I wish you the very best with your kids. I think you're a wonderful father and I'm sure your kids will be all the more accepting being raised to know that love is love,no matter the sex of the people involved. Congratulations!

 

Yay!!!!!!!!!! Don't worry, just tell then that anyone who makes fun of them in school isn't someone they want to be friends with anyway because those kids probably aren't people they want to be friends with. I'm sure your kids will be fine with it, my dad told me he was gay when I was 7 and I didn't even really know what it meant yet. I grew to think his partner, Steven, was like hela awesome, much better then his current partner. Like it has been said its better to do it now, before they grow up and learn who knows what from school and what have you.

 

Jimmy! Whatever happens, remember to be 100% sincere with them, and you can always poke me if you need someone to talk to.

Good luck!!

 

Good for you !!!! With all that support Im sure things will turn out fine for you and your kids .

 

i know you will fair well, i came out to my son,he is very understanding,so will yours,they know they have a great Dad,what could go wrong.

 

Jim, I am very happy to hear that you have reached this point. Good for you. I am also planning to tell my kids soon. Here are some thoughts I have on the subject:

1. Kids will eventually figure it out if we do not tell them.
2. Trying to hide it sends the wrong message to them that there is something wrong with being gay.
3. Asking them not to tell sends the same message, that there is something wrong with their dad being gay.
4. My kids know my boyfriend and really like him. I think it is good that they have gotten to know him before I speak with them. They have seen that gay people are just like everyone else; we just love someone of the same sex. Since they know him, I can have the discussion with them in somewhat more concrete terms, and I think that will help them understand better.
5. They may experience some bullying during their lives because I am gay. However, this experience of seeing discrimination affecting their family directly will make them stronger, and more empathetic, people as adults.
6. I need to always be there to listen to their concerns about my sexuality and how it affects them as they grow up and make sure they feel they can always talk to me about their feelings.

Good luck, Jim. Please continue to share how things are going. Your advice in the past has been invaluable, and I hope to hear about how it goes for you with this, as well.

 

I hope it works out well for you Jim.

I have been thinking lately that I want to come out to my brother. When I do, I want to talk to him about coming out to my nephews and niece. This thread has made me think about it more and how or when I should let them know. They are older 13,15 and 18 so they will fully comprehend the notion of having a gay uncle. I am a little nervous about it. When I talk to my brother I will frame the conversation so that he and my ex sister in law can decide when and how to tell them. I do not want to tell them without their consent. Any thoughts about telling teenagers and young adults?

 

Good luck Jim!

 

(*hug*) Good luck! I'm sure everything will be fine. Your kids are lucky to have such an honest, loving dad.

 

best of luck to you Jim, I hope it goes well.

 

good luck! im sure itll all go well!

 

Good luck mate, hope it goes well. You are a very brave man.
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Good luck! As kids, I think they'll take it really well