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Told my parents

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Kenko, Apr 15, 2009.

  1. Kenko

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    I was planning on telling my parents after dinner last night. In the afternoon I went for a drive by myself and kept going through thoughts that confirmed the fact and just kept saying "I am gay" in the car.

    All through supper I was completely stressed, and felt like I was going to throw up. This is a good idea of what it felt like:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqeHFtbaj7A

    I was hoping for a video where time was going at half time.

    Once dinner was finished I just grabbed that Band-Aid and yanked. "I love you which is why I'm telling you I'm gay". They both just said "Okay" which I think is a loss of words response. I hugged mom, then dad, then my mom again. What my mom said consisted of "I noticed you never had a girlfriend", "Do you have a 'special friend'?", and "I just don't want things to be hard for you". I then said to both of them "Don't be afraid to talk to me about it or ask me questions"

    Dad went to his study (which he was going to anyways) and mom watched TV. I watched TV with my mom, and during a commercial break she sat next to me and asked "Who have you told" and "How long have you known". Afterward I tried to continue normal chatter during shows just to try and keep the awkward to a minimum.

    The only things dad has said to me since last night is normal small talk stuff that he'd say anyways. So really I have no idea how he's taking it. I'm probably going to have to rely on mother for such information.

    I feel relieved yet not at the same time.
     
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    Congratulations!!! (*hug*) Your parents reacted pretty similarly to how mine did. My dad has never said a word about me being gay, but he's quietly accepting, which is great. I hope yours is the same.
     
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    Congratulations!
    And your parents seem to be clones of my mother...

    I'm feeling much the same at this time. I'm really have the impression that I just confirmed a hunch.
    On the other hand, I'm starting to feel like this was indeed the right thing to do. I'm hoping some questions will come eventually. Somehow answering questions always helps for me.

    But enough about me!
    Just hold on to the thought that you did the right thing and you don't have to lie anymore! That's great!
     
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    Congratulations!! Trust me you will be happy you did this.

    I felt the same way after telling my parents...relieved that I had done it, but wondering if it was a good idea. As time goes by, you'll notice that the shock of it all wears off and things just go back to normal.
     
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    Congrats!!
     
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    congrats to you,brave soul, you make it easy for others to come out too,thanks for sharing your sucess story with everyone.
     
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    Great job now for me to try again.
     
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    Congratulations !
     
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    Congratulations, I am really glad that it went well.
     
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    Congratulations!!!

    My mom and dad reacted in a similar way. I had to bring it up again - 3 months later. But in the end, they've been great. Just give them time to let it sink in. I'm sure they're talking about it with each other, but they'll be uncomfortable bringing it up again with you. I had to do that. I wouldn't recommend waiting for 3 months - it seemed like an eternity!
     
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    Congrats!
     
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    kudos on coming out! and i felt that way too after i was outed. but, hey, its over with so now u just have to let them get used to it.
     
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    That's great.It sounds like your mom took it pretty well.All the research that I have done says that one parent may deal with it at a faster pace than the other.

    Congratulations.
     
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    Ahhhh...another great story! Congratulations! Welcome to your new
    life,out of that closet!
     
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    yah well done, its always cool reading positive stories cos it makes the thought of telling my parents seem less scary
     
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    Congratulations!!!!! I'm glad it went well. (*hug*)
     
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    That's great congrats :slight_smile:
     
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    Woohoo!!! That's a super good response! Consider yourself lucky. :slight_smile:
     
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    sam response as mine...Mom said okay and she just wanted me to be safe...dad didnt say anything to me other then regular stuff BUT he told my mom a week later that he has been thinkng and it doesnt matter to him..then mom told me lol
     
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    Hey, congratulations!