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coming out to my parents

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by The1nkling, Apr 3, 2017.

  1. The1nkling

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    When I came out as bisexual to my parents... it didn't go so well. My father react d the worst. He was in complete denial, saying, "No! You're hetero! You've always been herero!" and then he stormed off. There were a lot of tears involved. My mom was supportive but here theory was that the reason I indentified that way was that I was super insecure and would date anyone that came my way.

    So yeah, that's my story. If you'd like to comment your story you can. I just wanted to put this out there.
     
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    It's not for some one else to tell you how to feel on the inside. I'm sorry things didn't go better for you. Did this happen recently?

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    No, this happened a few years ago and I haven't talked with them about it since.
     
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    Hey The1nkling,

    I'm very sorry to hear that your Coming Out went so poorly.:frowning2:

    Have you tried to help educate your parents about your sexuality? Or are they totally unwilling to listen?

    To me, it's understandable if they react poorly initially, if taken by surprise, but after some time they should realize the reality of the situation and parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally. And honestly, I don't see how outside 'propaganda' of any sort (religious, societal, etc) should ever trump blood ties.

    So, if you haven't talked to your parents about this for a few years, what is your interaction with them like today? Or don't you talk to them anymore?
     
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    I have a good relationship with my mom. Since then they got divorced and I don't talk to my dad as much. I've been considering coming out again to my mom and brother and seeing how they react this time around. I don't think my brother would react too well though since he overheard that I have a crush on a girl and he gave me the whole lecture on how that's "against our religion". (I don't believe the same as he does, but he doesn't know that.)
     
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    Hey The1nkling,

    I'm glad that you and your mom at least have a good relationship.

    In terms of Coming Out to her again and possibly Coming Out to your brother, I'd just say that you have to do what is right for you. If you feel a need to Come Out and are comfortable doing so, then that's your choice. If you choose to stay in the closet with your brother and not even bring the subject of your sexual orientation up with your mother, then so be it. The only right answer is the one that works best for you.

    I wish you all the best with whatever you decide.:slight_smile:
     
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    thanks so much. I really appreciate the reply
     
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    Quantum is a good guy and has helped me more than once. Anytime you need to talk there is always someone here.

    Take Care
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    Hi how are you? Hope you're doing well.

    Tbh I am only out to like a very few people. I wish I had the courage to be open with my sexuality like some people do. I am.only out to my case manager (she's very open minded and supports me) , my mother (although she says I'm confused cuz."I've liked guys before. Yes before I fully knew who I really was. I know for a.fact I'm.attracted to gurlz)
    So yeah I wish I could tell my dad but he's expressed some kind of homophobic views but doesn't care? Does that make sense but I have a feeling he knows. Just a matter of time before he "asks.me.about it" and I will tell the truth. Anyway that's kind of.my story. I hope.to be out and live openly more someday.
     
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