Coming out to yourself?

think this is the right forum for it, when did you come out to yourself, and decide that you weren't straight, i'm not saying there wasn't still doubt or anything but was i late in deciding this at 18?

 

I was 21, I made every excuse in the book to stay in denial since I was like 14...

 

Oh lordy no! I'm with you there, though. I've got so many friends and I see so many people saying "Oh I've always known" or "I've known since I was 5/8/12/whatever" and that was part of the reason I had such trouble coming out to myself! I'd say I was curious/suspected I liked girls in high school, and had it more or less confirmed freshman year of college, when I was 18, even though I'm still not sure which particular bit of the spectrum I'm sitting on.

But I'd had so many friends who'd figured it out yeeears before I did, and I felt like if I hadn't always felt that way, then my feeling that way now couldn't possibly be real. So you're not alone!

 

I was eleven. I still have doubt but i think I'm bi-curious. Only i'm gay and im curious about girls. I have a very strong attraction to guys but i have looked at a girl and went...I wonder.

 

i did that too.. all the way through 9th grade.

i was 12 i think when i figured it out. a girl made me question it, and a boy made me figure it out.

 

yeah i think that one i finally an sexually active with a guy everything will be clear to me.

 

I was 25, so 18 is not late at all!!

 

not that i was sexually active with him! i just figured out that i wished i was.

 

I started questioning my sexuality two years ago and last year I finally accepted myself.I was 22 when I accepted myself.

 

I came out to myself just a couple of months ago at 27, im glad I did. Im so much happier about everything in my life right now.

 

I guess I suspected when I was 16, but I didn't come to terms with it until I was 27.

 

well it didnt happen overnight thats for sure!! i was confused for about a year when i was 13/14. i hooked up with a few girls and realised i wasnt getting as much as a kick out of it as my friends were. i was constantly thinking, 'i might be gay', and often denying it. I think i truely realised when i had enough courage to type in 'gay porn' in google image search LOL

 

It was ridiculously simple for me. I had a crush on a girl when I was 11, and because no one had ever really talked about any GLBT stuff around me, and no one had ever given me the impression that it wasn't acceptable to do this, I was just like, oh, I like a girl! Okay, whatever. Didn't take me very long to tell some of my friends about my crush either. (Oh god, I was SO MUCH MORE TRUSTING back then, it's insane.) In fact, like a week after I realised I had a crush on a girl, about 5 of my friends knew. And I hadn't even known those people for long (like... only two months)! I'd just started out at a new school.

And because previously I'd kind of had a crush on a guy, I just thought... so I like both guys and girls? Right! And that was that. Didn't take me very long, but I was probably about 13 when I actively used the word bisexual to describe myself.

Though every now and then I kind of doubt whether I'm actually bisexual or not, since I've still not had any experience whatever. Haven't kissed anyone, dated anyone, etc. So. I might not really be bi. After all, it was just a crush. But I guess I'll be sure someday.

 

I've always known I was different, I discovered that I wasn't straight when I was 11 or 12, and I knew for sure that I was gay around 13 or 14.

 

18 in young. I was 39 when I accepted my sexuality. There is no set time to come out.

 

I was 14 when I knew I liked girls. I was 16,when I did something about it! I came out,the same year. It's different for everyone. Like was said,it's not like a race. You'll know when it's right,for you. I was just a smartass kid,who didn't really care what others thought.
It was AFTER I came out,that the shit hit the fan,but I dealt with it,and was a better person for it.

 

I am 21 and have just admitted it to myself and that was hard!

 

I knew I liked girls when I was 6 or 7, started thinking that I could be bi when I was 12 or 13, accepted myself as queer when I was 15-ish and realised that I'm a lesbian when I was 16. I was earlier than a lot of people that I know, and not having figured it out for a bit (or even a lot) longer doesn't mean you're too late.

 

i have always thought about girls but never acted on it but i am 31 now and i have just execpted that i am bi my mother knew before me and has been saying that i just need to except it so i have now the hard part is over now it just finding that someone

 

around 16, a little over a year ago?
told myself i was gay.
it wasnt easy though.
was in denial for a bit.