Came out to a Coworker!

I did it! I came out to the gay coworker that I have mentioned in previous threads. Today we both had to walk the lot to find a car. It is a good walk to the section that we both had to go to. I asked how he was doing and he said pretty good mainly working. Then He asked me I told him I am good and just trying to balance my life outside of work also. He then asked aren't you dating someone? I said yes, then he asked where I met them then I said blank.com dating site. I then took breath and said I have something to tell you.

I told him that I am gay and I have a wonderful bf. He was surprised and said he did not peg me for being gay. He said he felt privileged that I could tell him this because he knows how hard it can be to come out. Then I helped him find the car he was looking for. On the way back I asked if he went to Pride, he said no. Then I told him that I went had a blast and I had pictures I could show him. He said that we could talk sometime outside of work and that work was not the place to talk. Lastly I said to him you know how before I left the job last year I was miserable, he said yes, well I was struggling with this and since then I came out to my family and they have been great. He said I could have come to him and talked. I told him that I was not ready then.

So we plan at some point to go out after work and talk a bit. I think it will be good to get his perspective about work before I come out to anyone else. I feel so much better. It has been weighing on me a bit and I just wanted to do it. (!)(!)(!)

 

UPDATE

Today I talked to the guy that I came out to yesterday. He told me that he was very proud of me. We talked a little bit more today and asked if I was ever depressed. I told him that I probably was but never formally diagnosed. He said that he was depressed before he came out. He said at one point he was addicted to cocaine as part of his way of coping. I told him last fall and even before I was miserable, sad and upset. He said a couple of times he thought I was gay but did not know how to approach me. He said back then I seemed very short and did not know how I would have reacted. He said he did not want to set me off. He said it all makes sense now. Looking back even before I came out to him I realized that I was so miserable last year. Most of it was due to my issues with my sexuality. I told him that I am so happy right now. He said he was glad. We plan to talk more when we go out for drinks.

He said to me that I should talk to another coworker of both of ours and he would be very understanding and supportive. I told him I plan to at the right time. So guess who called me tonight. It was the coworker we talked about. I talked for a few about the job then we started to talk about other stuff and I told him I am very happy and he said he noticed. Then I told him that I wanted to tell him something. I then told him that I am gay and have a bf. Then he told me that he thinks he is gay and have had issues relating to this through out the years. We talked for a bit. It was good for both of us. I told him about EC and how this is a great place. I also told him we could talk any time. I feel so happy right now!! It is such a great feeling!

 

Thanks Mickey! I plan to help him. We have always been pretty close. We used to go out on Monday nights to watch football and have a few drinks. We have had some pretty deep conversations between us so I don't think it will be to hard to talk about this with him. I hope I can help him accept who he is and be happy with his life.

 

I do feel a lot freer

I have told him about EC. I will talk to him again about it.

 

On a Roll...

I came out to another coworker. It was totally unplanned. A saleswoman and I were going to an off site lot and she mentioned how she went on a blind date last night. We then started talking about dating sites and so on. Then she asked me if I was seeing anyone and I said I was dating someone. She then asked me what is her name. I froze and it got awkward. Then I said XXX, she then asked if it was short for XXXXXX. I said, well... I am gay. She the said no way. I said way. Then I told her that I would appreciate it if she did not say anything to anyone for now. She said it was all cool. She then said she had a gay roommate and its no ones business.

We chatted a bit and had a couple of laughs. Even though I know I can trust her, the whole thing was a bit nerve wracking. I do feel better now that I can come out and feel good about it. Its funny, yesterday I changed my out status as not hiding it anymore and I guess I held to it. (!)(!)