Well, I think I am going to write a letter. I have been reading up on PFLAG for the past couple days and think I have a very good basis of information to at least start a letter. I dont know when I will give it to my parents, but before the summer is over for sure. I was wondering if this seems "cowardly" compare to just sitting and talking with them. They are generally open people but for some reason I really want to write a letter. Also, my mother is about the nicest person I know, but she is bipolar. She takes meds for it so its controlled on a day to day basis and she sometimes says what she is "truly" feeling. When my older brother was little she would sometimes rudely ask him if he was a fag/queer because he always hung out with his friends. These yelling "outbursts" are virtually nonexistent now, but every once in a while when she has too much on her plate she goes south. I dont know if this should be a factor in my coming out process. I know deep down she loves me no matter what, but I am just afraid of what might be said.
It's not cowardly at all. I came out to my parents by letter. There is a section in the Resources tab for coming out letters. Good Luck!!
I don't think coming out by letter is cowardly at all. Letters can be just as personal as coming out face-to-face, and you won't risk tripping over your tongue, blurting out something you don't mean, or leaving out something you wanted to say. The Coming Out Letters section of the Resources page could be helpful. Good luck!
how should I go about delivering it? E-Mail, or printing it off and hand delivering it to my parents saying they have to read it?
I came out to my first person by writing a letter what I did was a handed it to her and just told her to read it later. I think its easier to write a letter vause u can think things though and not see reactions.It is not a "cowardly" thing to do if it feels the right thing for you to do then its a right!
I think printing it (or even handwriting it) and hand delivering might be a better option, it makes it that little bit more personal and serious - tons of emails fly around every day, but if you're given a physical letter, you know there's meaning behind it.
good luck, Anyway I did and came out via text messages, email and snail mail letter. I did not have the nerve to come out face to face. However I am surprised there are those that choose to come out face to face. Anyway do what method you choose which you think is best to come out with.
I had a failure at coming out to my parents in a letter, but don't let it get you down . Just do what you feel is right.
