It's my turn! I came out to my two best friends!!!!

I can hardly believe it myself... It's 2 in the morning, and I've just got home from their house, but I was so excited to tell all of you!!!

My two best friends are a couple that I went to university with - so we met 15 years ago and have been great friends ever since. They are also raising a young family, and we've all spent lots of good times together.

My separation from my wife has been really hard on them too - they viewed us both as their friends, and miss seeing us together, and visiting - as my wife and I have been really busy trying to set up our new lives...

Well the wife called my wife to talk today, and was saying again how hard it is for them to accept, and how upset they are over our separation, and came right out asked my wife if I was gay! My wife had always promised that this would be something for me to disclose to people when and if I was ready. So she denied it.

But my wife immediately called me to tell me what had happened. She was really upset and worried for me, and I was in fact relieved! Telling them would be easier if they already suspected.

So I got in my car and made the half hour trip to their house and just knocked on their door at 10pm tonight and invited myself in. We each had a drink (she wasn't going to, but I strongly suggested that she should! lol!). After an hour of chit chat - somewhat forced at times, because I think they knew why I was there, I got around to the reason for my visit... to tell them that I was indeed gay.

They were relieved that I'd shared this with them. They had been trying to figure out why my wife and I would have separated earlier this year, and this was the only reasonable explanation they could imagine... They were not at all put off by it, and were really glad that I'd been comfortable enough to share this with them. They appologized for perhaps forcing the issue by asking my wife, but wanted me to know that they were there for me if I needed to talk, or needed their help.

I'm truly blessed - to have friends and a wife that are so supportive and understanding.

So that's my story. I'm still in shock... but it really did happen. Yay! :eusa_danc

 

Thanks everyone! This really was a milestone for me. I've read all the other 'coming out' stories here and always wondered when I would have mine. I didn't have a burning need, but at the same time didn't want to necessarily hide it from people either.

The stars kind of aligned, and my best friend, in her own way, reached out and gave me the opportunity, and I'm SO GLAD that I grabbed the opportunity and did it! I can see myself doing it again without hesitation, when the next opportunity presents itself.

I have to say though that I've got comfortable with the concept of coming out BECAUSE OF THIS SITE!!! This is SO GREAT! It has provided me the ability to talk about this with others in the same situation, and hear from others that have had great and not-so-great coming out experiences. It helped a lot to get my head around the whole idea.

THANK YOU EVERYONE! YOU'VE ALL BEEN SUCH A GREAT HELP AND SOURCE OF STRENGTH FOR ME! (&&&)