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Finally Came Out Last Night

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by napoleonri85, Aug 30, 2009.

  1. napoleonri85

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    I've been friends with my best friend since we were in middle school...so it's been about ten years now that we've known each other. I've always suspected that she thought I was gay but we never really brought the issue up.

    This summer, I finally came to terms with my sexuality. It's always been an internal struggle. I always fought the feelings and was living in denial. I'm starting a new chapter of my life (recently graduated college and entered the workforce) and decided it was time to accept the fact that I'm gay. I've already been through quite a lot for someone my age, but this has been the toughest struggle I've faced.

    This week was the breaking point - I needed to get it out of my system. I decided it was time to come out and tell my best friend. I just needed to determine when the time was right - it all came together last night. Since we're both working full-time now, we don't get to see each other as often as we use to. We planned to get together this weekend and I decided to bring her out to dinner. On the way home, I knew it was the right time. I took a deep breath and let it loose.

    She was much more supportive than I had imagined! She was totally shocked at first. I was kind of taken back by that because I had always thought she suspected it. She had no idea.

    What a sense of relief! I've been living in a state of fear and confusion all summer. Last week was the boiling point - I was making myself sick worrying about it and even loss my appetite. Today, I woke up a new person. I feel so much better. This experience wouldn't have been possible without the support of this forum. All of your stories have been inspiring and I don't feel as though I'm alone anymore.

    Thank you Thank you! :slight_smile:
     
  2. Eleanor Rigby

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    Congratulations for coming out to yourself and to your best friend. That's a big step done. And I'm glad that she was supportive. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrats! =)
     
  4. napoleonri85

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    Thanks (&&&) Reading this forum has definitely been a huge help over the past few days. I'm so glad I stumbled upon this site!!
     
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    I'm so glad Empty Closets could help you :slight_smile: It did so much for me too. Congratulations :grin:
     
  6. Shimmi

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    Congrats! I am glad that you had support in your best friend and that you are working through your struggles ! CONGRATS!!
     
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    kudos! (!)
     
  8. napoleonri85

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    Thanks everyone (&&&)
     
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    Nice Job!