I came out to my friend. He didn't react and then brought it back to him being discrimainated against :eek: Wtf like ?
he probably just didnt know what to say. one of my friends i told basically said, "hm really? how do you know?" and then went back to telling me about her cousins from california and how she had to babysit them while her parents went out. i was like ummm no more questions?? but yeah its always weird when theres no friction
But there was friction - He was basically calling me racist. The whole reason I told him was because he called me a fag and i got very offended and i decided im going to tell him why i got so offended. So I tell him not to use that word anymore because im gay, and I'm no putting up with it anymore and the he starts saying he's not putting up with racism anymore :eek: As if to call me a racist !
haha nobody ever directly called me racist and they shouldnt. i make friends with all the races. hell, i love having (especially) black friends. we have a blast
wait. im sorry but i'm totally lost. how is you saying that you're (you NOT him) are gay, translate into being racist? if anything, him claiming that you are being racist is being an idiot (no offense to your friend but really? racist has to do with RACE not sexual orientation.) Unless you then said something like, i ONLY like white guys. i think your friend is somewhat confused
ohhh okmi think i got it a little more now. basically he wasn't saying YOU are a racist, he was saying that if you aren't putting up with being discriminated against, then neither is he. (i think...) but my question now is: was he saying it angrily? or was he just trying to jump on the "no more discrimination" bandwagon?
He was saying it angrily :eek: I think after calling me a fag and him then realizing what and ******* he was for saying it, He had his foot in his mouth and wanted to shift the blame to somebody else .
Now that makes sense. It will be interesting to see how he moves past that incident. It can be hard for us when our bigotry catches us flat-footed. "my bad" can be a hard thing to learn to say quickly.
i say just move on if he cant its not your fault your still the same guy only his perception of you has changed... (*hug*)
Thank you. That won't be easy tho seeing as he is one of my best friends and my best friends cousin and sits beside me in basically every one of my classes. :icon_sad:
im sorry i knew some peopel once a time i considered my best of friends they were brothers to me they even came to my mothers funeral i remember at the footbal once it was raining i asked him what would you say if i was gay...this was before i really thought i liked guys and he said friendship would be over... this was a guy i had knows for 6 years had fought beside and drinked and laughed by... but i realised he wouldent accept me its the same with most people i knew and still know. my best friend now is homophobic but says he would accept me but still says horrid things... its hard really hard but i dont want to lose him. so i understand how you feel i say jsut give it time then maybe have a quiet chat with him tell him how you feel and you dont want to lose a friend. thts all i can really offfer sorry it aint mroe.
Wow. That's not nice! And it makes no sense whatsoever. I don't know how being can translate into that but ok. Obviously he's not a friend, in my opinion.
(*hug*) It sounds like you need to talk to him about it some more. If nothing else you ll grow from this. I hope it works it out for you (&&&)
wtf? how did the racism thing even come about?? dats weird! but i hope u guys work it out and everything goes back to being kool!
