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Better than planned. (Out to my Mom).

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by Kokopuff, Sep 16, 2009.

  1. Kokopuff

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    Of course... you never really 'plan' how your parent(s) will react when you come out, but... you definitely make ideas, based on if they react well, or not-so-well.

    But the way that my mom reacted couldn't have been better, in my eyes.

    I'd been thinking of telling her for some time now, at least a year. I'm 17, and I was tired of keeping track of appearances at school, just in case it got back to her some way. I wasn't sure when I would do it, just that it would be before new years.

    So, after spending some quality time with a good friend, I'd felt a wave of confidence. I walked into my house, and into the kitchen, and there stood my mom. She was making my brother's lunches for school in the morning, so I knew she would be up for another half an hour.
    We made small talk--we're close-- and she gave me one of the burgers she'd made for dinner. As I ate it though, my stomach dropped, and I had to stop eating. "Can I ask you something?"

    And she just "Mmhm, what is it?" "I'm gay." "Are you now?" "Uh-uh huh.... "
    My whole body was shaking to the point that I thought my legs were going to give out on me. I couldn't even hold onto the cup I was holding, I had to set it down to help stabilize myself.
    "Well, that's okay. I know a few gay women at work."
    So we talked. She told me that, it was my choice, and as long as I was happy it was okay. That, lots of people are like that, and no matter what, I'd always be her first child, her first baby girl. Haha... oh, can't forget also. She said, as I was walking away, "It's really awesome that you told me though."

    Haha, it's _awesome_ I told her. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    Over the last couple days, she's been... very encouraging. :thumbsup:
    She's the reason I actually found this site.

    "Have you checked out any gay communities at all? I'm sure there are some around the are, just Google it. This lady at work says that she would always go out and have meet ups with pride groups. So, I think you should give it a try. Go out and experiment, and date."

    I couldn't imagine that it would have gone this well with her. I'd had my doubts, because she seemed undeniably homophobic at times... but, I guess she's biased haha. I'm just really happy that she accepted it so easily, and is quite happy to help. <3
    I really do love her.

    She's the only family (except for my younger sister) that knows. But, she's the one I was most worried about, the others will be easy. <3

    ~Kokopuff
     
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    It's wonderful that your mum is so supportive! Happy for you that it went so well. Congratulations!! :slight_smile:
     
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    Glad it went well.
     
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    Welcome to EC! Sounds like you have a great mom. Congrats on coming out.
     
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    Hey - that's a fantastic coming out story. - And great that it led you here. :grin:
     
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    My parents have gradually come round to the idea of my bisexuality. Glad your mom accepted you!
     
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    Wow - that is an awesome response :slight_smile: Congrats!! I wish all parents were that accepting.
     
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    That's wonderful! Good for you and good for your mom! :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm glad your mom was so cool with you being gay. That's awesome :grin:
     
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    THATS awesome, so happy you have found EC and you found Yourself so with that said WELCOME TO EC !!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    Thanks guys <333
     
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    Congratulations! What a great coming out story. Your mom is incredible!
     
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    good job telling you mom and glad she is supported
     
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    Awesome, congrats to you. Give your mom a big hug for me!