It went so much better than I had expected....

I just registered, but I have been lurking around the forums, and especially reading the coming out section because I have decided I want to come out to more people. While I still haven't come out to some of the people that I want to, I have come out to my parents, which was the most important to me. So here is how it went:

I had actually just started coming to this site everyday for a week, to get an idea of how people's parents reacted when they found out that their son was gay. For some reason, I just decided that it was time for my parents to know that I was gay. I think my main motivations were that I had just turned 21 and was tired of them not knowing, along with the fact that I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Anyways, I had just decided I really wanted them to know, and since they were going to be coming to stay at my "roommate's" (boyfriend's) and my apartment that weekend I thought maybe that would be when I was going to tell them. For a while, I had just hoped that maybe my parents would figure out that I was gay and ask me...that seemed like it would be alot easier than telling them. Unfortunately, my mother seemed clueless, so I had given up hope on that. So the weekend comes, and my family comes to visit. John, my roommate/boyfriend, decided to go home because he had alot of studying he needed to do. That night, after my parents and I had come back to my apartment from dinner, my dad went out for a walk and my mother and I watched TV. During a commercial, my mom all of the sudden mutes the TV and says, "Kevin, we have a good family right? We can be honest with each other and stuff...?" I told her yes, of course. So she said, "Well, I have something to ask you. And before you answer, just let me finish.....So, is there any chance that maybe you and John are more than just good friends. I have seen the way you two act around each other, and the way you look and talk to each other. You have never been interested in dating girls either, so I am starting to think maybe you and John are more than friends." Well, at this point I felt strangely calm, which kind of surprised me. I told her that John and I were "more than just friends", and asked her how she knew, and if dad knew we were talking about this. She said she could just tell, and that her and my father had already talked about it. She said they were both fine with it, and they still loved me and that they both thought John was "a very sweet boy". And although she said she didn't want to know if we were having sex or not, she said she was actually glad that I am happy and that she doesn't have to worry about me being lonely. She said she that she really still wants me to go to church (we are Catholic), but that there are some things that she doesn't agree with the Church on, and she trusts me to figure out what I believe. Besides that though, she said she was very glad that I was happy, and that I had found such a nice boy. It was really great, and her and my dad both took it so well, I was really shocked. I was thinking they might take it ok, but this was just amazing. I guess that just goes to show you that even the people you think you know best can surprise you!

(I also found out that my older cousin, who everyone in the family always says I am very similar to, is gay as well.)

 

Wow that must of be totally unexpected! Love it when these things just come out good.

 

Aww, I love it. Congrats! (*hug*)

 

Haha, yeah I thought it was kind of spiffy that we had been thinking about the same thing .

I definitely realize that I am lucky. My boyfriend, whose parents are more liberal and "open-minded" didn't even take it this well!