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out to besty... had to do it over fb (lame i know)

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by calstad, Dec 24, 2009.

  1. calstad

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    ok so i would have liked to do this face to face but i am half way across the world at the moment and i just HAD to tell them... so i copped out and did it face book style...

    so i told my friends wife a few weeks ago and shes been wanting to talk to my friend about it really bad but he hadnt known yet... i really wanted to do it face to face but...
    i was like whatever ill just get it over with and then she can tell him all about her plans she wants to make with me... ugh like show me will and grace, take me to gay bars, yada yada lol.. so heres how the convorsation went.. tell me what you think...

    Carl
    bang bang beautiful

    have you ever heard of the westboro baptist church?

    10:20pmRyan
    no

    10:20pmCarl
    the ones who protest at gay soldiers funerals

    the GOD HATES FAGS people

    Ryan
    ya, i brought brownies to our last meeting

    10:21pmCarl
    f*** off lol

    yeah so they're protesting at lady gagas
    concerts cause she support us.....

    i mean gays.....

    10:23pmRyan
    ok

    lol

    10:23pmCarl
    they're douche bags

    who the f*** protests at a f***ing funeral

    10:24pmRyan
    even if its hitlers funeral you don't do that
    haha

    10:25pmCarl
    right?

    10:26pmRyan
    no s*** regardless

    10:27pmCarl
    i mean its not like being gay is anything
    like being a murderuous facist but still..

    10:29pmRyan
    of course not, hey i gt shower and get
    ready for my parents

    10:29pmCarl
    alright but hey

    10:29pmRyan
    huh

    10:29pmCarl
    i want to get something straight
    im not.... HAH

    ttyl

    10:30pmRyan
    later

    Than while this is going on my friends wife was like "Did you just tell Ryan?" "He's saying I think Carl just told me he was gay and he's talking all fast, lol"
    than I tell her "there now you can talk to him about it" than he logs back on and says

    10:52pmRyan
    hey don't worry about nothing, it's your life and you need to make the choices that make you happy, gtg though i'll be on later

    i'll start logging on more too

    10:52pmCarl
    yeah lets talk later k?

    10:54pmRyan
    k, later




    Im really happy I told him but I wish I was there in the room with him to see his reaction.
    I told Sarah to tell Ryan "Pleeease dont be afraid to hug me when I come home, I love you as a friend and hope you still do too" which Im sure he wont be all werid about it.

    But anyway what do you guys think off how I came out to him?
     
  2. revolutionrock

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    I think it worked marvelously! Congratulations. :slight_smile: This is similar to how I came out to one of my best straight friends. He is actually more affectionate than ever now... dunno what that's about. :wink:
     
  3. Connor22

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    YAY Congrats for telling him!! I really hate to tell people to their face, I get this sort of sick feeling but meh. WELL DONE and I'm guessing he took it well. MERRY CHRISTMAS!!
     
  4. x2x2x2x2y2

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    Congrats!! I think he will still hug you. lol :slight_smile:
     
  5. Tom

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    it doesnt matter how you come out in the end, as long as you do and you get the right reaction, it is good seeing their reactions first hand but usually you will see a similar expression when you have that first in-depth conversation with them about your sexuality, as it will happen and probably multiple time. I came out to my best friend in the same way aswell and it has worked out fine for me =]
     
  6. zzzero

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    congrats but way to avoid saying you're gay ha ha ha. i could never come out that way, i'd worry too much that they wouldnt take the hint. I usually just turn the topic to relationships and wait for the "how's the lady situation going?" Then I tell them that I'm gay.
     
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    Coming out of Facebook isn't lame. I came out to everyone on myspace. Not the traditional way, but still, its coming out and everyone knows, which is the main point. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your friends! :slight_smile:

    There is no right or wrong way to come out. Glad that it went well!