About two and a half weeks ago I changed my Facebook "interested in" to "men." I also personally notified five or six people I know well, including my (ex, though it's still odd to think of her that way!) girlfriend. My relationship with her spurred my coming-out. It's not that a woman's nethers are disgusting to me, as I know they are to some guys; I rather like the smell, to be honest. But, it wasn't doing a thing for me in my nethers, and she kept wanting to do things to me instead of me just doing things to her. I held out hope for a while, but eventually I could no longer handle the pressure of not being able to fulfill her sexually. Plus, there was the matter of three and a half years of gay sexual fantasy and porn. :icon_bigg She took it very hard, but I think is mostly okay with it at this point. I've met a few gay guys over Facebook, which has been quite cool, though I'm not romantically interested in any of them. I am now out to everyone but my family. It's not that they would disown me, but it would be awkward. I'll let them know in a year, when I leave for college. (I sure as hell am not living at home any longer than I have to. Independent living has been one of my deepest fantasies for about fifteen months now! -- Again, not because I don't like my family, but because I am ready to be on my own!) Yet very little else has happened! I have received no PMs from people on Facebook w/regards to my orientation. A few days after coming out, someone did shout something about "heterosexuality" to me -- he was driving by in his car as I was running. It seems a bit too coincidental for him to have been reacting to my Facebook modification, though. Probably I just have a funny way of running. :lol: Mostly uneventful. I am still pretending to be dating my ex for the sake of my grandmother and my step-grandfather, the latter of whom is conservative enough that coming out would be awkward to no end. And for the sake of the rest of my family ... I suppose I'll have to announce the relationship's end to them, and come up with some inane reason.
Sounds to me like you've accepted this about yourself really well. I wouldn't worry about coming up with some kind of inane reason for breaking up. People at your age break up all the time - I don't think it will be a big shock to anyone. And it's probably more fair to your ex that you don't pretent that you're together just to fool your family - she's hurting enough already. You don't need to come 'out' just because you don't have a girlfriend - that's all. Good luck.
Good job on coming out. Interested that nobody seemed to notice your facebook change, or at least they didn't make a remark about it. That's a good sign that you probably have true friends. (In fact, the reason why I don't have a myspace or facebook myself is because I don't want to put "Straight" and lie, but I can't really put "Gay" either, because I'm not out to most people... and putting no answer leaves them the hint you're gay/lesbian anyway! Lol.)
I can't help but raise an eyebrow at those who leave the orientation field blank on sites like that, but they always deny it...
YATTA! You seem to be very good at handling this i wish you all the best, and that Facebook thing is a great bonus
Very briefly I hated gay culture more than I hated anything else. I allowed stereotype to control me, on the eve of my coming-out, and for that reason delayed for a few days. But, as soon as I had come out, the feeling passed, and it's become obvious (through this board, for one) that there's a lot more to it than porn. Thank God I don't have religious parents. I've never hated myself, or my sexuality. I went for a long time without labeling myself as straight or gay, but I'm embracing the "gay" label now! (Mainly because I want to find other gay guys :
