Wrote a letter, giving it to parents this thursday.

Good luck! One thing that might be helpful to add is something like "I';m not gay because of anything you did, or didn't do. It's just the way I am." But it sounds like it's a good letter, and I hope it goes well for you

 

It sounds like you covered everything and it sounds like the best time to do this sort of thing. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!

 

Good Luck!!!
and keep us updated!

 

Maybe refer them to PFLAG (google PFLAG) or have some Coming Out books ready for them to browse through if they have a hard time adjusting to the news?

 

Good luck I hope everything goes well.

 

I think leaving them an option to read more about can be beneficial, but maybe is too much to handle right away.Also, make sure you don't let them blame themselves for it.

good luck!

 

I hope everything goes well! Good luck! And, be sure to tell us how it goes. (*hug*)

 

Yes, PFLAG is probably a better option for them because it is specifically directed at them as parents. If they ever connect with a resource, it will be PFLAG.

So I'll just play Mr. Cautious here (it's my job! ) and make sure you are ready for this. You do sound ready from what you've said and the points you're covering in your letter, but I'll go with better safe than sorry.

So first thing, can we safely assume that you're expecting it to more or less go well with your parents? I'm asking specificallly because of your age - you don't want to be forced into a situation where they react badly and it puts your personal safety and security in jeopardy. If there's any risk, I will always advise you to wait until you're more independent and self-sufficient.

Next question, are you mentally prepared for this? Are you confident enough in your sexuality to project a positiive vibe about it and about yourself? Again it does sound like you're at a good self-acceptance point, but I'm just asking to make sure. Also are you prepared for all possible reactions on their part? What if you're expecting it to go well and they don't take it as well. Are you at an emotional point in your own life where you can deal with negative responses?

Finally, do you know why you're doing this? Can you explain to yourself your reasons for having to do this now, and do they make sense to you as your own critic? Are they positive reasons or negative reasons? Have you weighed the rewards of this decision against the risks and come to the conclusion that the potential rewards outweigh the risks of things going wrong?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to talk you out of this - just making sure you're ready. If you are comfortable answering all of the above to yourself and you like the answers you're giving, then I'd say go for it! Good luck and let us know how it goes! Oh, and enjoy France!! (lucky so-and-so... )

 

So? How did it go?

 

Good luck.

 

It sounds like you've got everything all squared away. How did it go?

 

Ahhh....good for your mom! I hope your Dad is okay too.

 

yay! that is wonderful. hopefully you guys will have a nice talk about it and the rest of your family will take it well too! Yay for having a cool mom!

 

I'm glad your mom took it well. I hope things are fine with your father too.
Congratulations for coming out to them.