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:/ There's another case not dissimilar to this in the advice forum. Sorry to hear that, but on her case it may not just be latent homophobia bu technophobia too.

Sorry about what happened, but if I were you I'd let it blow over. If you're friends with her on Facebook you could always just change your privacy settings for her so it looks like you aren't FB out. But that's a tad dishonest.

 

Lol, same, I sometimes wish I hadn't agreed to add my mum.

 

Your mom is right about one thing : what you put on facebook is not private anymore.
It's possible that you're mother have some issues with latent homophobia, but I think she is also very concerned that you could have to face bad reactions because of coming out on facebook. Maybe your mother is ill at ease with the fact your gay, but I think she is also trying to protect you, wich is basicaly what mums do.
I think you'd better respect her concerns and have a talk with her about why you want to come out on facebook and what you do to protect the privacy of your informations. If she sees that you have been thinking about it and that you're careful about what you're doing, she might be more keen on trusting you than if you act as a careless teenager.
Take care, Cécile

 

Maybe you should let her the benefit of the doubt, especially as you said she is a bit more older than most teenager's mothers. Yes, she may have a hard time accepting that you're gay, and she may have some misconceptions about what being gay means. That doesn't mean she is not going to be able to accept it, she just needs some time, and maybe to be educated about it. And that is something that you can do.
Did you think about maybe giving her some Pflag material to eduacted herself about gay issues ? Here is a link to a Pflag booklet for parents of LGBT people.
http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Publications/Daughters_Sons.pdf
Maybe you can print it, read it and give it to her, telling her you know that she is having a hard time with the fact you're gay and that you're willing to answer any questions she may have.
I'm not saying it's going to do any miracle and she probably will still need some time, but at least she'll know she doesn't have to deal with it on her own if she needs support.
Take care (*hug*) Cécile

 

The local version in the UK is FFLAG: http://www.fflag.org.uk/

 

You have a gay brother? Cool. Yeah you should look through the FFLAG stuff, I've been flicking through it, in preparation for telling my parents (maybe tomorrow). It's very good.
There's also a good mildly American-tilted one from PFLAG: http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Publications/Daughters_Sons.pdf

 

Thanks, but this isn't the first time I've decided that I'm about to do it. Last time I only managed to tell my little(ish) sister.

 

lol, no, not really... They are married, which I guess puts them on the same side though...

 

Yeah, you asked are my parents allies... unless this is some chav slang that I'm not following...?

 

lol, sorry, with you now. No, they wouldn't be quite as active as that would imply, and I think my mum might be rather innocent about homosexuality in general. My dad's just, well, indifferent really. He doesn't go out to pride marches, but he's not homophobic or anything.

 

No. I'd intended to do it at dinner, but conversation was leading very much away from the way I'd wanted to do it, then I'd decided I'd do it this evening, except my sister was watching a film with my mum, and I really want to tell them together.
To tell you the truth, that's half an excuse really anyway. So I've decided to send them each an email, probably tonight, and get up early tomorrow morning, to intercept each of them when they get it.