I Managed To Do It

So, somehow, God knows how, I managed to finally get the words out to tell my sister. I felt like I physically had to drag the words out of my stomach......I feel so relieved now. I unexpectedly started crying aswell, but it couldn't have gone any better. She told me she knows lots of gay people and couldn't have been any more accepting, she told me to only tell our parents when I felt ready and not to be rushed into it. So thats something to think about. I'll tell my brother today hopefully (it doesn't seem so hard now) and then.....I can relax for a bit and think about what to do next Thanks to all who've offered encouragement

 

It feels excellent Just knowing that there's someone in your family who'll stand by you nomatter what makes a big difference to how you feel. And your right, this was the toughest "coming out" I've had to do so far (partly due to the fact that I couldn't hide behind msn I think) but I feel like things will be so much easier now More than anything, I just feel relief that I did it. Thanks very much

 

Thanks everyone! I couldn't have done it without the support of EC, it's helped so much. I would have posted back sooner if my computer hadn't insisted on causing me problems, its another achievement I've managed to get it up and running again :lol:

I told my brother aswell and it was another great reaction, he took in the information, hardly batted an eyelid, said it was cool, and then we proceeded to talk about something else like nothing had happened. That's five people I've now told and none of them seem to care at all, they just act the same way around me as they always have! I think you tend to make a bigger deal out of it in your head than it actually is.

So, I feel a lot more comfortable now that my brother and sister know and that they'll back me up nomatter what. I've another brother - who doesn't live here - to tell and that'll go well too I think, it's just getting an opportunity to tell him, which I will do when it arises. I'm not going to tell my parents in the next day or so, but I'm thinking about doing it soonish. I always envisioned telling them by letter, and I've actually drafted one out, but I'm starting to think about doing it face to face, although it still scares me somewhat.....I want to tell both at the same time, and while I don't think my mum will have much of an issue with it, my dad - although I think he'll come round over time, and once he understands it - will be more difficult, hence my want to write a letter and clearly explain how I feel. Because I'm pretty lousy at speaking.

Anyway, that's all for another day. Thanks again everyone

 

My very belated thanks (major comp problems ) for all your kind words and advice

I've not yet told anyone else but I've been thinking about it a lot over the past week or so, and I think I'm going to tell my parents in the next few days. I was going to say last night but the opportunity never really arose and both of them have stopped for a long weekend holiday from work and I don't really want to spoil it at all, so I'm thinking of doing it on Monday night, the night before they go back to work.......and I've decided to do it face to face

Once that's done, everyone else can know really, its just a matter of how I go about it but that's another matter.

Thanks again

 

Yes, I think I'm quite flexible about when I'm going to do it. I think if an opportunity comes up I'll just take it. I was even considering doing it tonight for a while because it was just us three in the house, but they were sitting chilling, watching the tv and I didn't really want to spoil the night, I'd rather tell them when they're not really doing anything.....I think I'll know myself when it feels right, but hopefully it's soon. I feel like once they know I can tell anyone else with ease. With every day I feel more and more confident about it, and all the fear is starting to fade. I've sampled a little of what it's like to be open and I want to experience it more and more