I found out today that two of my friends, who I'd not really got round to coming out to yet, had actually known I was gay for a good couple of weeks, and no-one told me . Basically when I text my friend, they told me they had already told these guys a while back. I had kinda said to her ages ago that I didn't mind if she wanted to tell them, but then it was never mentioned again, so I figured she just wasn't going to and would wait for me to do it myself. Obviously I was wrong. I'm not annoyed for her telling them, seeing as I did say it was okay. But I am kinda annoyed that she never told me. Now I feel like a right idiot, I'd been sort of 'censoring' myself with them when they knew the whole time. I know I should be glad that nothing's changed with them knowing I'm gay, so much so that I didn't even notice that they knew. But at the same time it's making me think that sometimes with some of my friends, its less that nothing has really changed, and more that they're pretending nothing has changed. I'd rather not act like nothing's changed and never talk about it, that was the whole point of me coming out.
I understand what ur talking about. I would much prefer if they at least had some kind of reaction. Preferably good of course. When I first came out to a few friends of mine I had someone else do it for me. I just felt so awkward because they never said anything abou it. Sure they were cool with it, but still there's the unspoken thoughts that drive u mad.
Just start wearing a pink ribbon on your backpack, or a "too cute to be straight" button on there or something. That will remove the subtlety. Just remember to remove them before being around family, or you won't have to worry about coming out to them either
Well she was making a T-shirt for me for Christmas and I joked that if she made one that said 'I ♥ Gay Porn' that I would definitely wear it. I think I'm being held to my word now, so yep, nothing subtly about that. I've been thinking about it from their point of view. I've known them for a long time, an all that time I've been 'straight', then someone else tells them that I'm not and I never mention it in front of them, in their shoes I wouldn't ever bring it up first.
You know I had this situation with a best friend,when I finally told him, he said he figured it out a while ago, but he wanted ME to tell him when I was ready. Nothing about you has changed thats why they're not actting different. Being gay isn't was defines you it just part of you. Its no different then how Asian school girls do it for some straight guys, while blond catholics girl outfits do itf or others. Its different taste, nothing more
