Enough dickin' around. I'm gonna do it. My university's GSA has an inagural meeting on Thursday, and part of my new year's resolutions was to befriend more gay and lesbian people. Being that I still live at home...an unfortunate prerequisite will be revealing this information to my immediate family as soon as tomorrow. I've decided to take the slow route thus far by leaving one note of two on the countertop early in the morning. Here is its content: When the time is appropriate, I will present the second note to them in person. Here is the content of the second note: I've left the first note, but I still got time to re-vise the second one. What's your take on it? Any good?
Love the second note. Its clear, gets straight to the point and opens the floor to discussions about how this has affected you.
I think that this is a great note, and a great step! From your parent's perspective, I would see a few things: a) you are very very firm on this b) you are nervous, at least a little c) you want to be VERY clear that this is who you are! If I were your parent I would respect you and this letter, taking parental action thereafter... namely striking up a gentle conversation about it.
This morning, I got back the first note with a note of his own written in the whitespace: I guess that bodes well. Will report back tonight.
Well the second one, in my opinion, is alittle formal for family but you know them best so you go with what you think is right. hope all aswell as it is now.
Well, that was entirely uneventful. My parents wanted to know immediately what I was about to reveal, so my mom came downstairs and asked me to come upstairs. I brought the second note with me and left it in the room after I got up there. I was so scared though, that as soon as I gave them the note, I ran back downstairs and anticipated the worst. They came downstairs shortly after and had a thirty-minute discussion over why he was mad; that I didn't tell them sooner and that I thought they were going to kick me out, hate me, etc... I expected the fires of Hell itself and instead I got a small hot coal. So, yay, that's over and done with.
I'm happy for you everything went well with your parents Everyone should be so lucky. Congratulations for coming out to them, I know it hadn't been easy, but I'm glad everything is fine for you know. (*hug*) Cécile
