Well first of ive been prowling here for a while and decided to join Second i need help telling my parents that im gay but im worried that they will treat me different the only people that know im gay are my 2 best friends. Any advice?
Firstly, welcome to EC! Glad you finally decided to join us! A few questions: Have you come out to anyone yet, or would this be your first time? Second, do you have any brothers or sisters? They can be helpful sometimes, helping you judge how your parents will react. Some advice I've seen offered before, if you don't want to come out to them right away, you could try commenting on a few GLBT things, like gay marriage, or Rosie O'Donald, and see how they react. Do you know if they're supportive of gays, or do they seem to dislike them? If you know/find out their opinions on gays and lesbians in general, that could help you get a better idea of how they'll react to you coming out. That's my advice, at least on figuring out if they'll treat you any differently. I'd hope that they wouldn't no matter what, as you're still their son, but I've read plenty of things to know that isn't guaranteed.
This topic might provide you with some help, if you haven't already looked at it: http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4387
Yes i have come out to my two best friends and they don't treat me different Yes i have 3 other brother but they are a little to young to understand I am thinking of telling them today but im a bit scared of there reaction
First, I would not use a mention of Rosie as a way to guage your parent's acceptance. I LOVE Rosie but alot of people don't like her outspokenness. Ellen Degenerous, YES! She is a gay person that everybody likes. Second, most people worry way too much before they come out. You worries may be justified if you live in Iran or Saudi Arabia but most people don't have that problem. I think if you will read some of the coming out stories here that a few have problems, but most parents take it pretty good. Sure there is some tears and grief but most come through just fine. Yours probably will too. If they do have some problems, we're here to help you. I will even mail you some PFLAG literature, if you want. Just try not to get too stressed out worrying about this. Most likely everything is going to be fine. (*hug*)
Don't stress about it, it will go fine! I worried about it terribly...so terribly, but everything went better than I could have thought. But, also, do it when you feel comfortable.
Zorn i read your story this is what is inspiring me to tell them Right now im trying to tell them but keep backing out
i don't really know what to say. well take your time in telling them. get some information that you can give them to read if they have some questions that you think would be better for them to read. think of answers for all questions that they might ask. stay strong and look towards the positive side of the situation.
well id thank you all for helping me come out i finally did it and my parents accepted me thank you all so much
