I'm gay*. My attraction to women is platonic and romantic. Not saying that "ew boobies", girls are attractive, but I'm really not interested as much as I pretend. Now, here's the problem. What the fuck does that mean for my sexuality, really? I can and have dated girls, but ultimately if I'm looking up shit, I go for guys. Um . confused here. *OK, my choice of USERNAME should've given this one away. I'm a fucking kitten
That's the key point. Some of us who ultimately realize we're gay think first that we are bi because we have some attraction to girls, but we realize that attraction is mostly just us pretending to ourselves so that we can hold on to that societal ideal of boy/girl. Try to ignore what society (or your parents or whoever) has taught you or looks for, and just imagine the ideal partner that would make you feel wonderful, just the two of you, separate from the world. Is that a guy?
Just means exactly what you just told us. You are a guy who is romantically attracted to girls and is also attracted to guys. Nothing wrong with that
If you're not as interested as you pretend, you may have some difficulty reconciling what you want to be with what you are. Our conscious and unconscious play lots of games with us, particularly on issues like this. For me, the most accurate answer comes from what you look up (I assume you mean porn). If it's pretty much always guys and not girls then... you're likely pretty gay. If you're thinking about guys when you masturbate then... you're likely pretty gay. If it's more of a mix of guys and girls then the answer is less clear and you may be bi. Keep in mind there are lots of gay guys who have tons of female friends, some of whom are BFF types that they feel very close to... but they have not the slightest interest in sex with them, or attraction to them in that way, and so they are pretty clearly gay. But when you sit back and think about it, why does the label matter at all? If you go for whom you're attracted to and want to spend all your time with, and be intimate with, *that* will be who you love, and in the end, it probably doesn't really matter if it's a guy or a girl.
