How i plan to come out, in an airport.

Dude, this seems like a really good idea. it seems that you are very confident about coming out to your mom, which is really awesome. If she said that she was fine with your being gay i don't think you're going to get a crazy reaction out of her, but it seems like a really fun way to come out. I like your attitude regarding your father: "if you cant accept your son for who he is then you have a serious problem.." That is totally true. Plus, if he is a cop, he should think of all of the criminals that he has arrested, and he should thank God that you are gay and that you are not a criminal: just another thought. i do not think you should change anything about your idea.it sounds great. Good Luck with your courageous coming out.

 

I think that's a good plan. Just wanna say good luck!

 

I wanna steal your idea!! But not until the end of summer when I am returning home from Texas. You have to keep us updated on how this goes because if it is successful I want to modify it a little and use it to come out to my own mother. My mother has always been the more carefree one and if it goes bad, Ehh I wont have to see her again anymore.

 

At least you know you're mother and sister will be very supportive. You're dad will come around, I imagine, as you only gave one example of him being homophobic (people tend to change their minds once they know someone whos gay).

 

Awesome and I can not wait to see the outcome of it!

I dont think this will affect you babysitting your little cousin, there is a big difference between being gay and being a pedophile

 

That I do my friend, that I do.

 

I don't think its a good idea at all, and quite frankly I think it's kinda of shitty...i think you are trivializing the whole thing too much.
>>I don't feel like having to deal with it in person.
That pretty much sums it up.
Well, then it appears you are not ready to come out...what do you expect, that they will simply forget about it when you get back or when they talk to you again?
You're simply throwing a grenade and running away because you don't want to deal with the effects of your actions...at least that what the appearance is

It's good that members of your family would be supportive..a lot of us don't have that.
I agree with Mirko, if you are going to do it you should take it seriously and tell them before.

Besides...if you are hell bent on doing it at an airport..at least do it at DCA...Dulles is such a shithole.

 

^This is very true and something that you should keep in mind. Just by getting on the plane you are delaying the talk rather than avoiding it.

Only you know your relationship with your mom and what would work better for your family, but maybe you could also give your mom a short letter explaining why you feel you can't do it face to face just yet, but that you feel and wanted to tell her. That way you leave the door open for dialogue and you can still come out in the way that you want.

Either way, best of luck and let us know how it goes

 

Yeah unfortunately I dont think this is a good plan but its great you wanna come out but you should do it when your ready and not wanting to face it in person doesnt sound like ur ready

 

I was really hoping there would be a flash dance mob in this one, but oh well.

Like some of the other have said, she'll want to talkabout this when you get back so be ready to her to ask questions. You're Dad will get over it, 95% people who are homophobic don't know any. Once they do and get know them those prejudice tend to go away.

 

I'm worried your mother's reaction won't be as good as you hope it is. Going from experience no matter how accepting someone is they need a "freak-out period" to adjust. Even my best and most accepting friends needed this period and it doesn't mean anything and isn't anything against them they just need it. It might be fun but I don't think the response will be what you want it to be. And I'm fairly certain your mother will want to talk with you and obviously that can't happen if you are gone on vacation. You could do it but I suggest you do it a little more gently because she obviously cares about you, but it is a big issue so I don't necessarily think this is the best idea. If everything went according to plan like we want it to that would be wonderful, unfortunately, nothing I've ever done in regards to coming out has happened the way I wanted it to.

 

To me its a respect issue. She, as your mother who you are pretty sure will be OK with it, deserves to be able to ask questions and have time to digest the news. I don't know you or your mom, but im pretty sure that she cares about you and would be very hurt by this whole gay-and-run method of coming out. In my opinion, even the car method is a bit time restricted. Give it at least a couple of days before you go.

Along the lines of what Mirko and Redstate said, you need to be ready to talk with your mom and be asked questions before you tell her. Its not necessarily going to be fun or easy, but its a part of coming out to loved ones. There's a difference between being ready to accept yourself and being ready to tell people. There's a responsibility that comes with sharing this aspect of yourself with your family. If you expect her to support you, you may want to make sure that you are ready to support her too.

 

Wait, if she's holding the ipod, how will you get her reaction on the vid? Just her voice would be recorded.

I hope you go through with the coming out to her one way or another and you don't let all the responses here get you thinking about it too much and then cause indecision. Some good things to consider here, but you sounded so excited about this plan and now maybe you're not sure. Good luck