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Told my dad! :D

Discussion in 'Coming Out Stories' started by GoinStag, Jul 5, 2011.

  1. GoinStag

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    This one was pretty intense lol.

    Basically I got into this fight with my mom because I wouldn't cut the grass. I wanted a warning at least a day ahead of time. This has always been my only request. Well she just sprung it on me, and I told her that I needed to know at least a day ahead of time...so she turned off my texting. Needless to say, I was pissed.

    I packed some clothes and went to my dad's. Later that day when I tried to call one of my gay friends (from online), it said the number had been blocked by the account owner (my mom), so I tried another gay friend. Same thing. I then called one of my straight friends from school and the call went through no problem. That set me off.

    I called her up and we immediatly darted screaming. I threatened to tell her parents about her married Muslim (she's catholic) boyfriend (she claims they broke up) and I also said if I had to I'd contact authorities/police and tell them of how she used to beat me. She co pletwly denied all of it and told me I was crazy, delusional, and sick in the head. Finally, feel like I had no where else to run to, I decided to just tell my dad.

    I went up to his room to talk to him and said "Dad, I need to talk to you.....one of the reasons me and mom haven't been getting along....is because I'm gay"...he was like "are you?" and I said "...yes". He asked if I was playing a joke on him and I said no, so we went to the living room to talk.

    At first he was asking how I knew I was gay if I had never been with a chick, and I did the whole "how did you know you were straight before you messed around with girls?" thing. Then I told him about my past issues with self-abuse and being suicidal. That really broke through to him. He told me that even though he was shocked, he wished I would had told him sooner instead of hurting so long. He told me to keep my options open, but that he'd also support me whether I ended up with a man or a woman. That almost made me cry :slight_smile: he called my mom and sisters over and basically said "who cares what people think we have to support each other", and we all Webb out for ice cream.

    I am so emotionally drained, but ithink things are gonna continue to get a lot better from now on :slight_smile: thanks, EC, and thank you Randy for believing in me :slight_smile:
     
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    Glad to hear it worked out, and your dad stepped up to solve the issues ith your mom is good.
     
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    I'm glad it went pretty well for you. :slight_smile:
     
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    Congrads Gabe :slight_smile:
     
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    You're soo welcome Gabe!! :slight_smile: You've been a good friend and I'll always be there for you for support and a friend to lean on. I'm so proud of you and all the progress you've made.
     
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    I am so happy that you're dad was so understanding and there for you when you really needed him!

    Your mum sounds very intense, reminds me of my mum. I've moved away from home now and avoid staying there for very long when I need to go home and we get along a lot better now, but when I was 17 it was a lot like that. But your dad sounds like a wonderful man! Congratulations for coming out to him and that it went so well. :slight_smile:
     
  7. The Dudeh

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    Congrats, your dad sounds amazing :slight_smile:
     
  8. TheEdend

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    That's awesome! Sounds like a pretty tough situation that you were in, but I'm glad it turned out well for you :slight_smile:
     
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    :grin: I'm new here, and I gotta say, this really inspired me...
     
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    Wow Gabe, that's great news, congrats!
     
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    Gabe .... CONGRATS !!!!!!!!!!!! i am very happy for you and i know this must have been so hard and i want to say , congratulations . i am so glad this went well for you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    YAY for you Gabe. I am super proud of you! You rock.
     
  13. GoinStag

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    that is awesome! Glad it did

    ---------- Post added 7th Jul 2011 at 07:10 AM ----------

    And thanks, guys. Went much better than I expected
     
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    Gabe...congrats, seriously! You are awesome!
     
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    Congrats!! I'm glad things turned out well for you.
     
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    Wow. Im not surprised that that experience drained you :eek:

    Congratulations for coming out to your dad (!)

    What made you put it off for so long?
     
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    Congratulations, very happy for you! :slight_smile:
     
  18. GoinStag

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    Thanks, guys! EC has been a huge help in making me more comfortable with myself. Really, I've met some amazing people here! :slight_smile:
     
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    Whoooo ! How could I have missed that thread ???
    Gabe ! That's awesome !!! I am so proud of you and so happy for you that your father is supportive ! Congratulations sweetheart (*hug*) !
    I hope that things are going to settle down with your mother too.
    Take care of yourself (*hug*) Cécile
     
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    That's great. I'm glad your dad is supporting you, and I hope things with your mom work out better soon.