So I came out to my best friend the other day, and it was just weird. We were sitting around talking after a party but I really wasn't talking because I was in a mood and my friend (m) asked what was wrong. I told her that I've wanted to tell her something but I didn't know when. We then had the following convo. m: Just tell me already. Me: Well fine, I'll tell you. I'm gay. m: Bullshit. Me: Wha...what? m: I call bullshit, there is no way you can be gay. Me: And how would you know? m: You don't act gay and I know the signs. Megoes into a rant about stereotyping and etc.) m:Fine fine you're gay, no need to rip my head off. It's no big deal if you are, It won't change anything. Me: oh, wellll ok then. m: Anywho, how was your day? That wasn't really how I wanted to come out my first time but oh well I guess, at least she was accepting and understanding. It was just a really weird feeling.
My guess is that it was just shock on your friend's part and the possibility that they thought you may have been joking. Sometimes it just happens that way unfortunately.
Haha, I guess you guys are right. I probably would have seen shock on her face if I could look at her, but I was so scared/nervous I just kept looking at my hands.
Haha, that really is weird. Sounds like she doesn't know that many gay people, but has this idea in her head what they're like. She's accepting though and now she knows that you're gay, that's the main thing. Reminds me a little bit of my cousin who "wants a gay friend to go shopping with". I felt like maybe I should offer myself, but figured that it's not the best way to come out to her. Congratulations to coming out to your first though! Well done!
When my best friend came out, that was pretty much how everyone reacted. I imagine it is an odd thing. Sometimes people just don't know what to say, if you want to talk to to her about it more maybe just give her a few days to get used to the idea.
I know what you felt about being stereo typed to different gay people. There are so many womanly types and that's it was most people view as gay. even for my friends and co-workers it was quite a shock. I don;t act like the womanly gay type... if i didn't say i'm gay and we were not talking about guys you would have thought me an ordinary straight guy. At least you there to show your friend there are more than 1 type of gay people. Congrats though... good luck for the rest of the people you want to come out to! ;-D
She is perfectly fine now. She is even very supporting and accepting. We have this one friend who is constantly asking me about girls or trying to set meup and everytime he does me and her look at each other and just laugh.
that's awesome that you have a friend who knows now... so you don't have to pretend around everyone! so cool. even though you said it felt a little weird when you came out, it seems like it's benefitting you now.
