I am totally blown away at how many people suspected that I was gay. I look and act pretty straight. I have always gone overboard to not show any signs of femininity or someone might have found out about my little secret. But, as I have gone through this coming out process it just blows my mind at how many people say "I suspected" or "I knew that." I guess I didn't give people enough credit in there ability to see who I truly am. Has anyone else had this kind of experience?
Not personally, but I think it's a good thing. They must have known you were hiding it but they continued to hold back asking about it, and kept on supporting you. I wish more people were like that.
Before I started being open, I only had one person who knew it. Of course, that individual knew because I had hinted at it pretty strongly while discussing a completely different subject. Had I not hinted, he probably wouldn't have known. As of this semester, one person has told me "I had a feeling you were gay," after I told them what the rainbow bracelet I was wearing was for. That's about it. I was very good at being asexual for the majority of my life, so most people just assumed I was straight.
most people guessed it about me. my best friend and her family suspected it, even when i was like nine. even when i told them i was bisexual, they nodded and smiled and then when i left they were like "nah. total lesbian." my stepmom was also wondering by the time i was like six. my entire girl scout troop had all guessed...pretty much the only person who is in shock/denial is my mom, who kind of ignored me when i tried to talk about it last. lol i personally like when people had suspected as much. it makes me more confident that this is who i am, even though i'm the only person who really knows what's inside. it's still a great affirmation though when you've been hanging out with people all your life, and they figured it out a long time before you did, but they still hung out with you.
I recently came out and only my parents and my girl friends suspected/guessed. My guy friends were oddly oblivious. Some still are actually. It's kind of funny since my ex and I work at the same place and some people are still clueless even after seeing us together all the time.
I fooled a few into thinking I was straight but my closer friends and family knew before I even brought it up.
That is an interesting thought. I also liked it that so many people seemed to have known/suspected but didn't really know why. Maybe I also subconsciously was being who I really am......it's all water under the bridge now. Wahoo!
^ Me too. It boggled my mind when my parents said they had no idea I was gay. My dad said, "We just thought you were weird." I was like, "Really? The JNCO jeans, the Doc Martens, the Indigo Girls music, the flannel plaid, the lack of makup, diehard political activism, and the motorcycle didn't give it away?" :lol:
Great job on coming out, man! As my info says, I think people assume I'm gay. I wonder if people would pretend not to know if they think that's what I want them to say. I dunno. Anyway, congrats you did it
the couple people i have told said they knew all along. and i have had people i did not know ask and i did not answer directly. but there is definately something people pick up even when you think no one suspects. with me, people suspect, but i am not out. it is nice to know that comming out dosent surprise everyone
They probably suspected all along due to your complete lack of mentioning the opposite sex in a lustful manner. But it's only a good thing if they wait for you to broach the subject instead of prying and enquiring.
