came out to another friend! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

kiersten · 7th Oct 2011, 03:01 AM

So yesterday I was chatting with my friend on FB, & she & I got to talking about how busy college was for both of us. Then we started chatting about why I hadn't been on my FB for awhile, & this is the conversation we had. Sort of was an unplanned thing, but it was a little bit of a relief to tell the truth!

Me: hmm, not much else going on here. got some heavy personal stuff ive been dealing with, but im not going to go into that as it may freak you out
My friend: Dude, there is very little that freaks me out
Me: i came out at the end of June as transgender. ive been living with it my whole life & just hit a point where I couldnt keep not dealing with it...
see? probably freaking right now...
My friend: I'm not freaking out lol
Me: ill understand if you cant deal
My friend: I'm looking it up because I'm not sure what it means
Me: female brain in a male body
My friend: ahh ok
Me: i plan to transition while im in college. talked to a counsellor yesterday at the college & i guess im not even the first to do it at lambton.
been wanting to tell you & Deb for a bit, but wasnt sure how you guys would handle it
My friend: what do you mean by transition?
Me: in a nutshell, im female, so I want to transition to my true gender. see? freaky…
My friend: so you want to have the surgery to become a woman?
Me: yes
My friend: oh ok I understand, and I am not freaking out, I think that is totally cool actually
Me: really? it'll be a while before you see any real changes to me tho. i still have to sort out how to pay for therapy since i found out yesterday that the student insurance wont cover it
Me: so if im out to deb when we get together, at least we'll have something to chat about the 3 of us...
My friend: can I ask a question? lol
Me: yep
My friend: So do you want to do the surgery then sleep with guys? Or women?
My friend: lol see above :P
Me: well, thats the other thing. when i came out as trans, i also came out as a lesbian as well. so on top of this, im now also gay too
im going to my first PFLAG meeting tomorrow night.
My friend: well I just want you to know that I am totally supportive of you in this hard time hun ♥
Me: thanks hope deb is the same if i can work up the courage to tell her
My friend: goodness, is that why you've been wanting to hang with us so bad lately? Aww sweetie I'm sorry

but I'm totally here for you
Me: a little bit. anyway i have to go, but if you want we can chat about things more later
My friend: definitely hun *hugs*
Me: *hugs* thanks for understanding!

So now, I'm hoping that my other friend Deb will be cool, since Nikki & her hang out a lot I don't think it would be too much of an issue, but still, I'm a bit nervous about telling her still...

Overall, one more friend that I'm out to, so one more person that I'll have for support when I really start to get deep into my transition!

seeksanctuary · 7th Oct 2011, 04:03 AM

That's great. :] I'm happy it went well for you, and I hope things continue to improve! Good luck telling your friend Deb.

J Snow · 7th Oct 2011, 07:20 AM

That's awesome, there's nothing like coming out to someone and having it go well =)

alex2020 · 7th Oct 2011, 09:42 AM

Yay! I'm glad your friend took it well!!

sokk · 7th Oct 2011, 10:50 AM

Congrats! It seems like that went really well. I am happy for you!

thecat06 · 7th Oct 2011, 05:04 PM

Congrats!!

11 11 11 · 11th Nov 2011, 07:56 AM

Wow o.o

You probably don't need me to tell you how awesome that situation was, seeing as you were in it. All I can say is, isn't it amazing how happy we can be when we're wrong?

_

Doctor Faustus · 11th Nov 2011, 08:04 AM

YES!!!!

7th Oct 2011, 03:01 AM	#1
kiersten KierstenChromium, Mistress Of Metal Full Member Gender: Transgender - MtF Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to 127 people & my parents & 1 cousin so far Location: Sarnia, ON Posts: 1,331 Join Date: Jun 2011	came out to another friend! So yesterday I was chatting with my friend on FB, & she & I got to talking about how busy college was for both of us. Then we started chatting about why I hadn't been on my FB for awhile, & this is the conversation we had. Sort of was an unplanned thing, but it was a little bit of a relief to tell the truth! Me: hmm, not much else going on here. got some heavy personal stuff ive been dealing with, but im not going to go into that as it may freak you out My friend: Dude, there is very little that freaks me out Me: i came out at the end of June as transgender. ive been living with it my whole life & just hit a point where I couldnt keep not dealing with it... see? probably freaking right now... My friend: I'm not freaking out lol Me: ill understand if you cant deal My friend: I'm looking it up because I'm not sure what it means Me: female brain in a male body My friend: ahh ok Me: i plan to transition while im in college. talked to a counsellor yesterday at the college & i guess im not even the first to do it at lambton. been wanting to tell you & Deb for a bit, but wasnt sure how you guys would handle it My friend: what do you mean by transition? Me: in a nutshell, im female, so I want to transition to my true gender. see? freaky… My friend: so you want to have the surgery to become a woman? Me: yes My friend: oh ok I understand, and I am not freaking out, I think that is totally cool actually Me: really? it'll be a while before you see any real changes to me tho. i still have to sort out how to pay for therapy since i found out yesterday that the student insurance wont cover it Me: so if im out to deb when we get together, at least we'll have something to chat about the 3 of us... My friend: can I ask a question? lol Me: yep My friend: So do you want to do the surgery then sleep with guys? Or women? My friend: lol see above :P Me: well, thats the other thing. when i came out as trans, i also came out as a lesbian as well. so on top of this, im now also gay too im going to my first PFLAG meeting tomorrow night. My friend: well I just want you to know that I am totally supportive of you in this hard time hun ♥ Me: thanks hope deb is the same if i can work up the courage to tell her My friend: goodness, is that why you've been wanting to hang with us so bad lately? Aww sweetie I'm sorry but I'm totally here for you Me: a little bit. anyway i have to go, but if you want we can chat about things more later My friend: definitely hun hugs Me: hugs thanks for understanding! So now, I'm hoping that my other friend Deb will be cool, since Nikki & her hang out a lot I don't think it would be too much of an issue, but still, I'm a bit nervous about telling her still... Overall, one more friend that I'm out to, so one more person that I'll have for support when I really start to get deep into my transition! __________________ Penny: What's Sheldon's deal? Leonard: What do you mean "deal"? Penny : You know, like, what's his deal? Is it girls? Guys? Sock puppets? Leonard: Honestly, we've been operating under the assumption that he has no deal.

7th Oct 2011, 04:03 AM	#2
seeksanctuary Weary Traveller Full Member Gender: Transgender - FtM Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty much everyone that matters. Location: USA Age: 24 Posts: 402 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: came out to another friend! That's great. :] I'm happy it went well for you, and I hope things continue to improve! Good luck telling your friend Deb.

7th Oct 2011, 07:20 AM	#3
J Snow EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Sex - Male, Gender -Female/bigender/not quite sure Orientation: Primarily interested in men. Out Status: fairly out about sexuality, gender not so much Location: Des Moines, Iowa Age: 22 Posts: 1,392 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: came out to another friend! That's awesome, there's nothing like coming out to someone and having it go well =)

7th Oct 2011, 09:42 AM	#4
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: came out to another friend! Yay! I'm glad your friend took it well!! __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

7th Oct 2011, 10:50 AM	#5
sokk EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: The closet is my friend Location: Norway Age: 24 Posts: 312 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: came out to another friend! Congrats! It seems like that went really well. I am happy for you! __________________ John: "Oh please.. can we not do this this time?" Sherlock: "Do what?" John: "You.. being all mysterious with your cheekbones and turning your coat collar up so you look cool." Sherlock: "I don't do that." John: "Yes, you do."

7th Oct 2011, 05:04 PM	#6
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: came out to another friend! Congrats!! __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

11th Nov 2011, 07:56 AM	#7
11 11 11 No longer human. Regular Member Gender: No idea in the slightest... Orientation: Need a gender first. Out Status: Well at least I tried right? Location: Ponyville - Equestria Age: 18 Posts: 306 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: came out to another friend! Wow o.o You probably don't need me to tell you how awesome that situation was, seeing as you were in it. All I can say is, isn't it amazing how happy we can be when we're wrong? _ __________________ "If the brain we're so simple we could understand it, we would be so simple we couldn't." - Lyall Watson.

11th Nov 2011, 08:04 AM	#8
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: came out to another friend! YES!!!! __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

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