My letter (critiques?)

wow, you have amazing courage at such a young age it's really fantastic, the letter is great I think you've described your feelings really well :eusa_clap and I really hope everything works out.

One more thing "I know I will most likely burn in Hell for the rest of Eternity" that really upset me I must admit, I can tell you for a fact that if there is a god you will not go to hell for being yourself and do NOT let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

I don't think you will "Burn in hell...etc" and I don't think you should be apologetic. You can't help who you are. As a mother, those would hurt me more coming from my child than being told she feels like a boy ((i have a daughter))... I feel like you should be stronger, make it a statement, not a question.... "Mom, I'm not a boy... I'm a girl, and I want you to treat me the way I feel"

 

Its a great letter and I got to say for a person your age wow. It took me years to accept myself. I hope every thing goes great for you and your mom accept you. Just remember eather way in time every thing gets better. Dont for get that. Best of luck again.

 

I really admire your courage and maturity.

Like MommaFrog said, you have nothing to apologize for or be ashamed of. You are also most certainly not going to hell, if there even is one. If it exists, it ought to be reserved for those who use God's word to preach hatred of their fellow humans.

 

I agree with everyone. Your letter was very well expressed. BTW I love your signature

 

You're incredibly strong for doing this at such a young age. I wish I was as brave and certain as you are at that age. I wish it more than anything. Good luck <3

 

Well, it's definitely written straight from the heart. And I do think it does a good job at summarising your feelings and what you want to make clear.

However, I do think the last paragraph needs to be turned around a bit. I refuse to believe that ayone would burn in hell for being themselves, even if they just happened to be born in the wrong-gendered body.
And I do feel the final resolution in any coming out letter should be: "yes, we can get through this and emerge better than we ever were!"

So, maybe, does this sound better?

I think it says the same, without needlessly alarming your parents. You want to get them on board, not worry for your life!


Apart from that, I'll keep my fingers crossed for December 1st! (*hug*)

 

Keelin, this is a superb letter, I can only echo what's been said before, it's mature and from the heart.

I agree with Filip, if you can, use a more positive last paragraph, as it'll help your parents take the news a lot better; remember you've had to work through a multitude of feelings to get to this point over the course of four years, yet your parents will have to go over a similar path in a matter of minutes when they read this letter. Filip's suggestion will make it easier for them.

You should be so proud because I'm proud of you for doing this. (*hug*)

 

Im sure things will work out! Even if at first they dont, parents love is unconditional

 

I'm sorry that she said that, but I'd like to think that even if she doesn't understand now, eventually she will. Your letter is so unimaginably brave and inspiring to me, you have no idea--don't lose hope, please, lovely! (*hug*)

 

I know this is hard but did they give any reason why they don't like the transgendered section of the community? If they gave any reasons why it would probably be a good idea to address the reasons in the letter if they aren't already and if you still feel it is worth it to come out. For example some people think it's wrong since the person really just isn't coming to terms with their being gay or lesbian when in reality gender identity is separate from orientation.

I know it hurts to here things like that from people you love but please try to remember that they are still words coming from people that just don't understand your situation well enough yet.

 

With my coming out just a few weeks ago, I don't feel as I can give you advice. What I can say that I'm amazed by such a young person speak so much wisdom and able to express herself well, kudos to you.

I can speak to the spiritual side of it as I am dealing with much the same thing about eternity... you should know that you have to come to peace with yourself, then come to peace with your God... bottom line others dont have the power to udge you, nor do I... so don't give up your hopes of heaven... there is hope... of course my opinion alone... don't want the message of encourage get lost in the details.

 

1. and 2. No one chooses gender identity, it is biologically based and possibly even determined before age five or while in the womb.

3. Whether or not society accepts something is irrelevant to whether or not it is right or wrong or whatever they meant by that last comment. Societies all over the world have had no problem accepting terrible things at certain times. (genocides, race discremenation etc...)

I know those kinds of arguments probably aren't that comforting at the moment but they are true and I think it was great that you got on here to talk about it rather than keep it to yourself.

It may be a good idea to wait a night or two if you feel extremley distraught right now but you are the expert on how you feel and if you are ready to come out so don't let me influence you.