I came out to a family member - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

DataJinx · 30th Oct 2011, 07:37 PM

It was a few weeks ago, actually.
But I haven't been able to log on due to school work, so...

Me and my family were in (city name) for a wedding(which we ended up missing due to car trouble).

I finally got to see and spend time with my older sister, alone.
I'd been trying to tell her for months, but I didn't want to do so over the phone. And we hadn't been down to visit her in a while.

So, I'm hanging with her and her boyfriend in this big Halloween/Christmas/whatever store, waiting for a table to open for us at the restaurant next door.
Me and her wander towards the costumes as her boyfriend wanders towards the bathroom.
We're looking at wigs and I tell her that I need to talk to her about something.
She becomes concerned, thinking something bad.
I, having planned everything in advance, flounder for words, and start rambling a little.
Finally, because I have difficulty just telling someone outright, the exact words, I tell her 'I guess you could say this is me 'coming out''
Now, she reacted just how I thought she would, positively.
We then looked at Halloween stuff, bought a bunch of candy, complained about Mom's bigoted witchy-ness(though it's usually spelled differently...), had some GREAT cinnamon rolls.
All in all, it was a good day.

(Though there was a bit of a misunderstanding there when she thought I said 'transexual'...)
(And I'm not sure her boyfriend had any idea what was going on.)

MommaFrog · 30th Oct 2011, 09:06 PM

Yayy you!!!! glad it went well

Mister E · 30th Oct 2011, 09:08 PM

People with siblings really are lucky. They seems so supportive of you. I'm proud you had the courage and it went so well

alex2020 · 30th Oct 2011, 10:15 PM

Congratulations! I'm glad everything went well.

BenKent · 30th Oct 2011, 10:29 PM

wooooooooo! congrats! happy it went well for you! <3

30th Oct 2011, 07:37 PM	#1
DataJinx Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual Out Status: Best Friend and Sister Only Location: South Dakota Age: 20 Posts: 63 Join Date: Sep 2011	I came out to a family member It was a few weeks ago, actually. But I haven't been able to log on due to school work, so... Me and my family were in (city name) for a wedding(which we ended up missing due to car trouble). I finally got to see and spend time with my older sister, alone. I'd been trying to tell her for months, but I didn't want to do so over the phone. And we hadn't been down to visit her in a while. So, I'm hanging with her and her boyfriend in this big Halloween/Christmas/whatever store, waiting for a table to open for us at the restaurant next door. Me and her wander towards the costumes as her boyfriend wanders towards the bathroom. We're looking at wigs and I tell her that I need to talk to her about something. She becomes concerned, thinking something bad. I, having planned everything in advance, flounder for words, and start rambling a little. Finally, because I have difficulty just telling someone outright, the exact words, I tell her 'I guess you could say this is me 'coming out'' Now, she reacted just how I thought she would, positively. We then looked at Halloween stuff, bought a bunch of candy, complained about Mom's bigoted witchy-ness(though it's usually spelled differently...), had some GREAT cinnamon rolls. All in all, it was a good day. (Though there was a bit of a misunderstanding there when she thought I said 'transexual'...) (And I'm not sure her boyfriend had any idea what was going on.) __________________ I am so clever that sometimes I don't understand a single word of what I'm saying. -Oscar Wilde Doctor Who? 42

30th Oct 2011, 09:06 PM	#2
MommaFrog EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: All but family Location: Lake City, Fl Age: 21 Posts: 711 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I came out to a family member Yayy you!!!! glad it went well __________________ It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong" when nothings right. Maybe one day it will be ok again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be ok again.

30th Oct 2011, 09:08 PM	#3
Mister E Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Some kinda bi Location: Arizona Age: 15 Posts: 131 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: I came out to a family member People with siblings really are lucky. They seems so supportive of you. I'm proud you had the courage and it went so well

30th Oct 2011, 10:15 PM	#4
alex2020 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Everybody important, and anybody who asks. Location: Florida Age: 19 Posts: 1,437 Join Date: Aug 2011	Re: I came out to a family member Congratulations! I'm glad everything went well. __________________ “Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”

30th Oct 2011, 10:29 PM	#5
BenKent Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 34 Join Date: Sep 2011	Re: I came out to a family member wooooooooo! congrats! happy it went well for you! <3 __________________ 'You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.' - Siddhārtha Gautama

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