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Guitarguy · 3rd Nov 2011, 10:19 PM

i was on facbook talking to my friend about her christian parents who think that she is going to hell because she listens to satanic music aka my chemical romance and mindless self indulgence and we get to talking about how i am the only one of her friends that her parents aprove of. so since it seemed like it would be a funny time to bring it up (and since i had been planning to for a long time.) i told her i was gay
now heres where it gets interesting because facebook chat decided it would like to slowly start jumbling up what we were saying and she said that she was gay as well wich would have been awsome. but im not totally convinced that that was what she was trying to say.
so now i dont know how to bring it up in a conversation tomorow at school. "hey last night did i come out to you and did you come out to me?" it seems kind of like i would be assuming she was gay and if she wasnt she could be hurt by it. so im confused and i need help
i would really apreciate any and all advice

VentinIntrovert · 3rd Nov 2011, 10:39 PM

Don't over think it. Just like anyother conversation, start slow. "So that thing you told me last night, is it true." And so on...

Guitarguy · 4th Nov 2011, 07:47 AM

from now on i am not coming out over facebook. lesson learned

Danny19 · 4th Nov 2011, 05:13 PM

so how did that go? lol

sokk · 5th Nov 2011, 09:00 AM

Are you gay or bisexual? Just wondering, since you listed bisexual as your orientation, but you said you're gay?

Anyway.. I agree with the others. Just bring it up like a normal thing, just say like "you know on Facebook yesterday..?" and just say what you want to say. Don't be so hard on yourself. This was a good first step in your coming out process! But please, don't ignore it. It's better to bring it up, to hear what she said, it's better to get it over with, right?

Guitarguy · 6th Nov 2011, 11:08 PM

So as it turns out she isn't a lesbian and was just joking and is totally cool with me being gay.
And as far as the question of me being gay or bisexual. I'm feeling like bisexual might have just been a phase and I'm leaning towards gay now. I just haven't changed my profile.

3rd Nov 2011, 10:19 PM	#1
Guitarguy Member Regular Member Gender: Male Out Status: TWO friends! Location: Vancouver Age: 14 Posts: 18 Join Date: Jul 2011	so i maybe came out to a friend i was on facbook talking to my friend about her christian parents who think that she is going to hell because she listens to satanic music aka my chemical romance and mindless self indulgence and we get to talking about how i am the only one of her friends that her parents aprove of. so since it seemed like it would be a funny time to bring it up (and since i had been planning to for a long time.) i told her i was gay now heres where it gets interesting because facebook chat decided it would like to slowly start jumbling up what we were saying and she said that she was gay as well wich would have been awsome. but im not totally convinced that that was what she was trying to say. so now i dont know how to bring it up in a conversation tomorow at school. "hey last night did i come out to you and did you come out to me?" it seems kind of like i would be assuming she was gay and if she wasnt she could be hurt by it. so im confused and i need help i would really apreciate any and all advice

3rd Nov 2011, 10:39 PM	#2
VentinIntrovert Venting Introvert Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Age: 24 Posts: 163 Join Date: May 2010	Re: so i maybe came out to a friend Don't over think it. Just like anyother conversation, start slow. "So that thing you told me last night, is it true." And so on...

4th Nov 2011, 07:47 AM	#3
Guitarguy Member Regular Member Gender: Male Out Status: TWO friends! Location: Vancouver Age: 14 Posts: 18 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: so i maybe came out to a friend from now on i am not coming out over facebook. lesson learned

4th Nov 2011, 05:13 PM	#4
Danny19 Lets see what happens Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: i love boys!!! Out Status: Some people Location: Los Angeles Age: 19 Posts: 722 Join Date: Jul 2010	Re: so i maybe came out to a friend so how did that go? lol __________________ “Whats meant to be, will always find its way"

5th Nov 2011, 09:00 AM	#5
sokk EC Addict Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: The closet is my friend Location: Norway Age: 24 Posts: 312 Join Date: Dec 2009	Re: so i maybe came out to a friend Are you gay or bisexual? Just wondering, since you listed bisexual as your orientation, but you said you're gay? Anyway.. I agree with the others. Just bring it up like a normal thing, just say like "you know on Facebook yesterday..?" and just say what you want to say. Don't be so hard on yourself. This was a good first step in your coming out process! But please, don't ignore it. It's better to bring it up, to hear what she said, it's better to get it over with, right? __________________ John: "Oh please.. can we not do this this time?" Sherlock: "Do what?" John: "You.. being all mysterious with your cheekbones and turning your coat collar up so you look cool." Sherlock: "I don't do that." John: "Yes, you do."

6th Nov 2011, 11:08 PM	#6
Guitarguy Member Regular Member Gender: Male Out Status: TWO friends! Location: Vancouver Age: 14 Posts: 18 Join Date: Jul 2011	Re: so i maybe came out to a friend So as it turns out she isn't a lesbian and was just joking and is totally cool with me being gay. And as far as the question of me being gay or bisexual. I'm feeling like bisexual might have just been a phase and I'm leaning towards gay now. I just haven't changed my profile.

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