Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

likesguys · 8th Nov 2011, 07:10 AM

Hi Guys,

I'm kinda new here. I really like all the stuff that I read and I guess now it's time to do a little talking. I have told a few friends that I am gay. I think I figured it out when I was about 11 but kept it to myself until recently. It just scarred the heck out of me thinking of telling anyone. No problems yet, they don't care....well they do but it hasn't affected our friendships. They have been like no problem, just don't hit on me! Hehe! Darn there is one guy friend that I'm really attracted to but he's not gay. But he is still my friend.

So last night I posted a link to the HRC campaign on my Facebook . About an hour latter I got a message from my cousin and she said she had noticed several posts of mine in support of gay/lesbian stuff. She said that she was just curious and wanted to just ask me if I was gay. When I read those words my heart started racing, I got scarred. I thought about it for a bout a half and hour and messaged her back and said that she was the only one that had ever asked me that question, and I said that yes I was gay. I told her that I would like to talk to her more about this and gave her my email so we didn't have to use Facebook. I haven't heard back from her yet. I hope she will be ok with me being gay. I hope she doesn't start telling the whole family. I just really nervous about this. I hope I didn't make a mistake.

Lotty · 8th Nov 2011, 09:08 AM

First, congratulations!!! You were really brave telling her that.
I hope everything'll work out, and I really hope she'll be okay with it.
But well done!!!

Dykezz · 8th Nov 2011, 09:47 AM

Congratulations on coming out to your cousin.

That's great news!!

Ianthe · 8th Nov 2011, 10:38 AM

That's awesome! It's really hard when someone puts you on the spot like that. It's great that you were able to tell the truth, and very brave of you.

I think your cousin is likely not to tell your whole family, especially if you ask her not to. You might want to send her a message soon telling her that you aren't ready for everyone to know yet, so that she doesn't tell people without realizing that you don't want her to.

thecat06 · 8th Nov 2011, 11:04 AM

Congrats!! It's always hard to tell the truth when your put on the spot like that..

Chouchou · 8th Nov 2011, 04:45 PM

I applaud your courage in coming out to your cousin after she asked. Best of luck for a positive reaction from her. Like Ianthe said, promptly let her know that you don't want her to tell the rest of the family because you are not yet ready for them to know.

likesguys · 9th Nov 2011, 12:48 PM

So i had not heard back from my cousin since i told her i was gay so i messaged her yesterday and said that i hoped that she didn't have a problem with it. She messaged me back on Facebook late last night and said that she had been really busy and has absolutely no problem with it and that she would like to talk to me about it. I can't tell u how happy that made me. Had tears in my eyes when I read it this morning. Yea!

RaeofLite · 9th Nov 2011, 02:18 PM

If you had issues with her not telling the family, you should message her and tell her that you'd really appreciate her keeping the news to herself for now because you're not ready to come out to the entire family yet.

Doctor Faustus · 9th Nov 2011, 07:23 PM

Congratulations! You should be really proud of yourself that you were honest when it counted.

Hopefully she won't run around telling everyone and the neighbours next door (if she knows how to trust you with your confidence).

I wish you all the best and that you go from strength to strength.

Silver Sparrow · 10th Nov 2011, 05:44 PM

Congratulations! From your cousins reaction, it sounds like she will be able to keep your secret. If you ask her, I think it will be fine. I hope all goes well!

8th Nov 2011, 07:10 AM	#1
likesguys Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: few friends, one cousin,anyone who asks Location: Northwest USA Age: 20 Posts: 5 Join Date: Nov 2011	Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! Hi Guys, I'm kinda new here. I really like all the stuff that I read and I guess now it's time to do a little talking. I have told a few friends that I am gay. I think I figured it out when I was about 11 but kept it to myself until recently. It just scarred the heck out of me thinking of telling anyone. No problems yet, they don't care....well they do but it hasn't affected our friendships. They have been like no problem, just don't hit on me! Hehe! Darn there is one guy friend that I'm really attracted to but he's not gay. But he is still my friend. So last night I posted a link to the HRC campaign on my Facebook . About an hour latter I got a message from my cousin and she said she had noticed several posts of mine in support of gay/lesbian stuff. She said that she was just curious and wanted to just ask me if I was gay. When I read those words my heart started racing, I got scarred. I thought about it for a bout a half and hour and messaged her back and said that she was the only one that had ever asked me that question, and I said that yes I was gay. I told her that I would like to talk to her more about this and gave her my email so we didn't have to use Facebook. I haven't heard back from her yet. I hope she will be ok with me being gay. I hope she doesn't start telling the whole family. I just really nervous about this. I hope I didn't make a mistake.

8th Nov 2011, 09:08 AM	#2
Lotty Everybody's fool Regular Member Gender: Mostly female Orientation: I've given up on that one. Out Status: I don't hide it. Location: Holland!!!<3 Age: 17 Posts: 460 Join Date: Dec 2010	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! First, congratulations!!! You were really brave telling her that. I hope everything'll work out, and I really hope she'll be okay with it. But well done!!! __________________ .That's myself in the mirror.

8th Nov 2011, 09:47 AM	#3
Dykezz Still Growing Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Sister and some friends Location: Netherlands Posts: 129 Join Date: Jun 2010	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! Congratulations on coming out to your cousin. That's great news!! __________________ I never thought this day would come. The day that I would love myself enough to put my happiness over everything else. For the first time I am proud to be a gay woman.

8th Nov 2011, 10:38 AM	#4
Ianthe EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female/Femme Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Oregon Age: 32 Posts: 1,085 Join Date: Feb 2011	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! That's awesome! It's really hard when someone puts you on the spot like that. It's great that you were able to tell the truth, and very brave of you. I think your cousin is likely not to tell your whole family, especially if you ask her not to. You might want to send her a message soon telling her that you aren't ready for everyone to know yet, so that she doesn't tell people without realizing that you don't want her to.

8th Nov 2011, 11:04 AM	#5
thecat06 EC's Biggest LNJF and SNL fan!! Full Member Gender: Let's say Pangender! Orientation: Let's say gay!! Out Status: Out to parents, campus, and 75 friends on facebook Location: Central and Northern Ohio Age: 19 Posts: 2,504 Join Date: Jun 2011	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! Congrats!! It's always hard to tell the truth when your put on the spot like that.. __________________ So many years have passed, since I proclaimed my independence, my mission, my aim, and my vision, so secure, content to live each day like it's my last, it's wonderful to know, that I could be, something more than what I dreamed, far beyond what I could see -Dream Theater

8th Nov 2011, 04:45 PM	#6
Chouchou Warrior Goddess Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Homosexual (asexual?) and mostly homoromantic Out Status: To some friends, but not to family Location: Wisconsin, USA Age: 26 Posts: 1,109 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! I applaud your courage in coming out to your cousin after she asked. Best of luck for a positive reaction from her. Like Ianthe said, promptly let her know that you don't want her to tell the rest of the family because you are not yet ready for them to know.

9th Nov 2011, 12:48 PM	#7
likesguys Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: few friends, one cousin,anyone who asks Location: Northwest USA Age: 20 Posts: 5 Join Date: Nov 2011	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! So i had not heard back from my cousin since i told her i was gay so i messaged her yesterday and said that i hoped that she didn't have a problem with it. She messaged me back on Facebook late last night and said that she had been really busy and has absolutely no problem with it and that she would like to talk to me about it. I can't tell u how happy that made me. Had tears in my eyes when I read it this morning. Yea!

9th Nov 2011, 02:18 PM	#8
RaeofLite I've got the moves like Jagger Full Member Gender: ♀ Orientation: Sapphicly inclined Out Status: My closet is for clothes! Location: BC, Canada Age: 23 Posts: 3,111 Join Date: Apr 2009	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! If you had issues with her not telling the family, you should message her and tell her that you'd really appreciate her keeping the news to herself for now because you're not ready to come out to the entire family yet. __________________ People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -Bonnie Jean Wasmund (and the lesbians)

9th Nov 2011, 07:23 PM	#9
Doctor Faustus EC's resident Philosopher at Large Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Not straight. But only interested in men. xD Out Status: People who ask me. People whom I trust. Location: Basingstoke Posts: 1,610 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! Congratulations! You should be really proud of yourself that you were honest when it counted. Hopefully she won't run around telling everyone and the neighbours next door (if she knows how to trust you with your confidence). I wish you all the best and that you go from strength to strength. __________________ "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love." - Mother Teresa.

10th Nov 2011, 05:44 PM	#10
Silver Sparrow Proud to be a bookworm! Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Nothing quite fits... Out Status: One person IRL Location: Massachusetts Posts: 174 Join Date: Oct 2011	Re: Facebook post- cousin asked if I am that word! Congratulations! From your cousins reaction, it sounds like she will be able to keep your secret. If you ask her, I think it will be fine. I hope all goes well! __________________ Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth. ~Benjamin Disraeli

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